I am sad for OH and the turns it has made

As the mother of a 26 year old daughter (I don't know why that has any relevance, but to the OP it seems important), I'm appalled that someone would presume to tell me how to behave on this forum. I have my own values about what constitutes appropriate behavior, and don't need a finger-wagging lecture about how to respond to others. I will act according to my beliefs.

The poster who the OP sees as needing rescuing, was downright rude and vulgar. She was hostile and confrontational. She gets no sympathy from me.

Should she choose to ask a respectful question, she would in all likelihood get a respectful response.
SherryB

I understand everything you said but her original post was respectful.  To be called a attention ***** is not a very polite response to a question she felt was relevant to her situation. 

Some of the responses are what threw her. (not all were bad responces)
She responded in a way only she knew at that moment

Also I stated earlier that this was indeed my opinion.

I think everyone has the right to say what they choose as people have a right to use the tools OH has set in place that was all I was saying.

Any way we lost an incredible young woman from this forum and its a shame....(JMO)

I'm going to assume you don't like looking like a fool. Most people don't. You might want to go and read some of her recent posts. They might give you a closer look at this so called "incredibe young woman". She has a very expressive command of the English language.

When you have, I'm sure (well, maybe) the people you have offended will accept your apology.
SherryB

Not very likely.

She started a new thread just to rant about the responses she got from her other thread.  I say she got what she was looking for -- a fight.  That sounds pretty 20-something to me...just doesn't know when to STFU.  I've chalked her up to "Stupid is as Stupid does".  She's still not going to take her protein.  She'll have 10 excuses for it, and will blame her RNY for ruining her life. 

I have to say in all honesty, I have been posting regularly on the OH boards for 10 months or so, and I don't EVER remember anyone being unkind to me. This post got me thinking about that, and why nobody has ever been unkind to me, and the only thing that comes to mind is the fact that I try to treat other OH members with respect. If I ask for advice, I graciously accept their advice, even if it is "tough love" or I don't like what the poster had to say. (And that has happened.) Honestly, sometimes I NEED tough love!! So, from where I stand, it seems to me like this board is very much like real life in the sense that you GET what you GIVE. If you put out a bad attitude and give snippy replies, you are gonna get a lot of **** tossed back at you. Especially if you are asking for help and not willing to accept the help being offered.

That said, even in real life, there are people cross a line or go too far with things. There are a few in every crowd. (And I'm referring to nobody in particular, this is just a general statement.) I believe that you can't always control what others do and say, but you CAN always control how you react to it.

Has OH gone all to hell? I don't think so. I still believe that OH does more help than hurt. They can't always control what people choose to say on this, a public message board!!

OH is doing just fine. Miss self appointed thought police just got a bug up her ass.

Susan,

Obviously you are concerned by something (a stranger really) said here. I will make myself a list of what you deem I should or shouldn't do.
1. Don't speak out of place.
2. don't converse with any man older than me (how old is that exactly?).
3. no slang (to include ***** what should I use instead of man *****I like that one?)
4. educate fellow OH folk but not until 1 year post-op
5. Don't say anything I don't want to repeat over and over again
6. don't ever leave the forum

I deem that if you are so distraught block OH from your computer.

Like I said it was my opinion.
You can chose to do what you like.
Even read what parts of the post you want. and leave other parts out.
Like I siad they are all options not mandates.

My point was we lost a nice young lady on here and you dont know she is a stranger to me so another judgement misguided.

No need to be nasty I was just saying how I felt

I listed all the things OH has in place either read peoples post and ignore them or block them or report them its all up to you. Do what you like.

Have a great day

Au contraire -- IF she actually left (and they RARELY do -- her type almost always comes back for more), it is HER loss, not ours.

Oh, and I am the mother of a 25 year old daughter who can occasionally be an attention ***** and I tell her exactly that when she is.  She returns the favor.  All with smiles, because the phrase has a VERY apt and precise meaning, whether YOU like it or not.  "*****" for that matter isn't a vulgarity, it is a word with another, related, and precise meaning, in this case relating to doing things that are unseemly to the vast majority, for personal benefit.  This describes the behavior complained of quite nicely.