My Husband is trippin!

Ok, I've lost around 75 lbs. so far and every time I turn around he thinks Im doing something I shouldnt be. 
I feel so much better about myself and I try to dress better but one minute he says he likes my the way I am now and then he is fussing about how I've changed.  This surgery has changed my life and I am sooo much more confident about myself but my husband is getting worse about accusing and thinking Im out doing something I shouldnt be.  I understand that I have changed but I still try to tell him every day how much I love him and only want to be with him but I dont think its enough. 
Im just trying to see if there are other people who have dealt with this issue already and how they have dealt with it.

My husband has been really great about it, so I can't relate personally.  I can tell you though that I am sure you are not alone!  On the other hand, there are also a lot of husbands who would be right... there are all kinds of situations out there.

I hope you two can work it out though.  Sucks to be falsely accused.

My husband jokes, but he isn't a jealous person at all. He knows I'm not going anywhere. He will make comments sometimes...  like the other night, I went to the store and when I got home, he said "how many men were checkin' you out in the store?" and I said "Uh... none that I noticed." and he said "... that you noticed!!" lol Then he said "You look really pretty today."  I think he appreciates how I look now - it doesn't worry him that others might appreicate it too. (That said, he told me I was beautiful when I weighed over 400 lbs too. He's a keeper. )

Tell him to grow up and quit whining.  He married you for better or worse and he needs to deal with the new you.

Mine thinks Im anorexic, as do alot of people who will not tell me this. i learned it from my daughter. Im 10 pounds from goal, down to 160 from 304 at 5"9", I dont look like I weigh 160 but I do. Just keep reassuring  him and plan a romantic night just for you two, with surprises, be creative, notes to follow, etc. it helped alot!! Ive changed alot. I married him at 225 so he has never seen me this small or even wear his clothes, which are now too big on me. I think that aspect shocked him, but he is coming around, slowly but surely. I will pm you if I think of anything to help out.

Ive changed alot and now am changing the style of clothes as well, whereas I was a t shirt, jeans, no make up kind of gal, Im into fashion and changing how I dress and look when I go out and he wasnt used to that but as I said, it takes time, so hang in there! I will always be a work in progress and so will he. Blessings!

I can relate a bit...my husband was never a jealous person (we are married 4 yrs & been togehter a total of 7).  He met me when I was 200lbs, so never knew me "thin".

I'm now down from a size 22 to a 12 - and tho he says he's not jealous, I'm noticing comments and questions that would never have come up before. 

For example - when i go out with my girlfriend on "girls night", now he questions me 50 times over to see if we interacted with any guys. Two of my friends are divorced, so they are always flirting & he knows I'm a confident person.   Now he gets annoyed if I mention that one of my friends invited a guy to sit with us.   So i dont mention it anymore.

Another incident that is fresh in my mind is that i recently I attended a meetup with some other NJ WLS folks (from here on OH) & was annoyed that there was one guy attending (in a group of 7 other women).  

He's also pointing out when we are walking in the mall if another guy is staring at me.  I keep reassuring him, it's no big deal....but truthfully - he is getting annoying.

Girls night?  What's that?! lol  He now goes with us! Well, not on a REAL girls night, but he goes many places with my sister and I that he didn't used to.

A big 10-4 on that whole annoying thing.

You say, "I don't think it's enough."  Showing love and being in love with your spouse should be enough for sure.  You're married--you should have a hubby who adores you, supports you, and who is proud of your success. Whatever you do, don't "shrink" your joy and your new wellness and great new look out of fear. 

Others with similar experiences will weigh in.  I hope things work out for you and your husband.

I am sure there are a lot of husbands like that after weight loss, however it could be like mine...he never comments on how I look. I could look like a runway model and I don't think he would notice. When I have been hit on he asks if I gave them my # or if they need gas money to come get me. Husbands, Gotta love em' or do ya!!

Kim

LMAO!!!!!  You have described my hubby to a T.  

We have some friends who are a couple. The dude has noticed my weight loss and has commented...  nicely I might add.  I appreciate it.  My husband? Nope- I have to coax him into saying something.
On the other hand, if my hubby commented on the dude's wife's figure, I think I would be a little weirded out. I'm still very insecure. I trust the husband completely- but I think I'm just a bit weird. He is quite understanding about it. He doesn't promote insecurity or jealously in me by complimenting other women, but I don't get any either.