Need friends to lift me today... please

Yesterday my husband and I were in a car wreck. I just had my surgery on 10/5 and I'm trying to heal from it. Now I have to find the fortitude to get my heart healed after this accident. It was my fault. I was in a hurry and I turned in front of someone. I don't think it was my fault but the police have said that it is. I can deal with the ticket, the damage to the car and points. What hurts the most is that I could have killed my husband and he means so much me that I can't get to the point of forgiving myself for the wreck. I love him. And because he's the type of guy that he is, he won't tell me if he's in pain. He's more concerned with taking care of me.

I can't even think about protein, vitamins and all that stuff right now. And of course my husband used emotional blackmail to get me to eat last night. "You have to take care of yourself because I need you." I had some yogurt and two sips of soup. It all tasted like cardboard. I'm a mess and I can't stop crying. Just need friends right now. God, I can't believe I did this. I can't even apply for a new job now that I was eyeing because I have to have a clean driving record. So no social work jobs for me for the next 3 years. Damn...

Crystal

I am sure the accident wasn't that bad and it sounds like no one got hurt. Just be thankful that all involved are ok and move on. I understand the accident thing complelely I have been there!!! Also, there are tons of social work jobs that don't require clean driving records. Look into adoption agencies, elderly health centers, ect.. you will be fine! Cheer up and give hubby a big hug!

There is a reason it is called an accident, because it can happen to anyone at anytime. You are being way to hard on yourself. As a social worker what would you tell a client in your position, take your own advise.
Apply for the job anyway. A clean driving record means many different things. One accident is not a discounting event. If you were drunk or on drugs that would be a different matter. If the driving record becomes the problem, get a lawyer to help you clean it up. Always go to court and plea bargain it down.
As a social worker you know there is a solution to every problem. Lighten up on yourself or you could drive yourself back to old eating habits. You did not hurt your husband you learned that you need to appreciate your time together and not to be in such a rush. I learned while sitting in traffic on the belt-way in Washington DC, being in a rush is never worth it.

 Look up! by next summer you will be skinny and feel wonderful, and all of this will be behind you. I dont mean to make your feelings small, but remember they are feelings, and change your focus:)
We all make mistakes. Love yourself through this one:) It will be alright. Julie

I was in a car crash a few months ago.  I know how devastating it is and it takes time to really heal from it.  You cannot beat yourself up over this.  Be grateful that you both walked away from the accident.  You had an angel guardian on your shoulder.  Neglecting yourself now will not change what happened.  You need to go forward.  Keep yourself on your program and take care of you. I'm sure you are both achy today so just take it easy.  I'm sorry you had to go through this.  Maryjo

Stop dwelling on what could have been, if only's and regrets.  Be thankful for the gift you have been given.  It sounds like you have a wonderful hubby.  Life is too short to live it with regrets.  Savour every moment with him and make every minute count.  And yes its called an accident for a reason.  Now go hug your man, tell him you love him and get you something to eat!!! He is right - the best gift you can give him - is you!!!

Car accidents are very traumatic, that said..you both are ok!.  Have a good cry and be done with it.  Your husband doesn't blame you and you shouldn't blame yourself.  It was an accident.  If you have a clean recored now, you could still get probation before judgement.  If not, there are other jobs. 

Now, all that above it very sad, but that is no excuse for you not to take the responsiblity of eating and taking your suppliments.  Your body is mechanically different now.  Life will give you ups and downs, but the one thing that can not be tampered with is you taking care of yourself.  You would never want to put your husband through having to take care of you because you got sick for not doing what you are supposed to do, I think you love it to much.

Here is a great big hug, now get up and go make a protein shake..

It will be ok...
chili

it's all been said...


(((((((((hug))))))))))

Hang in there... and go eat.

I  completely understand your feelings. Give yourself a few days, you still seem pretty shaken up.  As the post above, it's all been said.
Sending prayers your way.

The reality is that you did NOT get your husband, or anyone else, killed.

Keep that in mind, and quit making it sound/feel as if you did. (That's what I kept waiting to read from your post, just from the way you wrote it).

Just stop it. The accident happened, it's over and done with, and it sounds as if everyone, except you, in your mind, is OK.

Pay for the ticket/damages, make that your penance if you feel you need some, and just be glad as anything that that's really all there is to deal with.