How rude!

So i just called a former co-worker/friend who was aware that i wanted to have WLS years ago (as did she). She is probably 200 lbs heavier than myself and the first thing she said to me was "so...how did ya lose all that weight"?.(she had heard through "the grapevine" that i had lost some)..and was very rude about it. I told her that i had finally gotten an approval and had been required by my surgeon to drop 20 lbs before surgery. Her comment was "well if you can lose that much on your own then why do you need the surgery?" I couldnt believe how rude she was being to me especially when SHE wanted it done as well and is alot heavier than i am. So she knows how hard it is to lose weight. I guess i just assumed that another overweight person would be more understanding than that but i guess i was wrong!  What happened to "if ya can't say anything nice then don't say anything at all"? GRRRR!

Maybe she's jealous because you've actually gone ahead and done what you said you were going to do. Or because you 'beat' her to it. Those kinds of friend are the ones that are going to be the toughest to deal with in the long run. Keep up the good work. And don't let her get to you.

Yes i think that must be what she's upset about. I also think maybe she feels alittle hopeless because her DR said she had to get her diabetic numbers way down before she would refer her for surgery. I feel bad for her...i was just hoping for her to understand. I've already spent alot of time justifying why i've decided to have surgery to people. Just wasn't expecting her to be one of them.  Thanks so much for your reply! Take care!

 Sounds like she's jealous.  As we all know, losing weight isn't all that hard -- it's KEEPING IT OFF that is the big problem.  WLS gives us a lot of help there.

Hold your head high and best of luck to you.

Linda

Very true ,Linda! Thank you!

Always remind them that your health is first that you have to be healthy and if you don't do it you may not live to enjoy your life. Many automatically think it is about how we look. It is not that as much as being healthy.

That is rude, she is probably jealous,  I would over look it, because sometimes jealousy will make you say things that you would never say, maybe she will call you and tell you she is sorry!

Sour grapes leave a bad taste in your mouth.  Don't let them get you down.  You're now a threat is all.

You need positive people in your life who love ans support you. There is no room for those who was to judge and "hate". Rock on, girl - be a rock star and don't worry about what people say. I'm having my surgery next week - the only people I told at work what I was going out for were those that I know care about me... The rest can speculate and then be "wowed" when I go back to work.

This is not an easy out, it will be hard and it will be permanent! Make it yours and own it. Good luck.

JEALOUSY!!! Don't let it discourage you!!!! She probably doesn't have the courage or drive to persue a healthier happier life like you are, keep up the good work and remember to do it for YOU!!! and no one else!!! best of luck!!! Bridge27