Cold Feet

i am scheduled to have surgery on Friday in San Diego. I was okay with everything until last night, I am so scared! Like I can't even sleep scared. I keep debating if i should cancel. My wonderful husband says that he supports me either way. I am afraid the nay sayers have gotten to me with all the "bad" things about surgery. I am so confused but I have decided that I need to decide by Wednesday. That way maybe they can fill my surgery slot with someone else. What do I do!?!?!

Youre worried about what 'might' happen with surgery..... to improve your life, as oppose to what WILL happen , with remaining obese?

Hmm... one question, are any of these 'naysayers' post surgery ppl? LOL.. kinda almost wanna say no.

If it was an organ needing to be removed, like your appendix, would you have doubts? Tonsils, gall bladder?

So why now... doesnt even remotely make sense.  Dont let those 'ants ' (automatic negative thinkers) ruin ur happiness. PLEASE!! Grab a vogue magazine and start 'shopping'. Pish-posh to them, fools.

oooo, I love that saying....ants!!

Unfortunately, what to do is a decision you have to make for yourself.  I get the doubt because of people with horror stories and all but that's where your research, and choice of surgeon should over shadow these doubts.  I am literally less than 24 hrs. away from my surgery and my decision is final, it has been since my last visit with my surgeon.  Lastnight my aunt called me with one last plea not to have surgery.  Since she works on the bariatric unit in her hospital ( in Florida) she swears that everyone there regrets their surgery, have lifetime complications, etc.
I've been hearing these horror stories for month's now but that was never a factor in me making a choice.  Things happen or LIFE happens, you just have to hope for the best.  I am 30 yrs young with a young husband, and young child.  So, yes I am scared outta my boots to interrupt their lives by doing something that can have long term damages.  But, I have to be able to love and live with myself before I can completely love and live happily with them.  So, I do this for the life I want, the love I want for myself, and the love I want to teach my daughter to have for herself.

What do you do!?!?!.............. Make your choice with the knowledge based on research, chose based on skills your surgeon posses, chose with your heart.  Don't let anyone scare you into choosing.
 

Good Luck, and God Bless,
Karla

Not to dispute you raunt but if EVERYONE there regretted it and they had long term problems, would the hospital be shut down?

I have my surgery tomorrow morning....haven't slept in 2 nights.  I have seen people in the hospital with complications, but 95% of those that I have seen have not been sticking to their doctors protocol.  All surgeries have inherent risks.  I sat down and literally took a peice of paper and made a list of the pros and cons.  FOR ME this is still very much what I want to do.
I am going to reclaim my life and start over.
Your choices have to be your own, but my guess would be that you are going through the same thing I did a week ago.  Reexamine why you want this and compare all of them for the rest of you life vs what could be a short term problem.

Good Luck with whatever decision you make,
Kelly

It is pretty natural.  I had the same thing.  When I look back though, I was not afraid of the surgery, but afraid of myself.  I did not know if I could be successful because of my eating behaviors.

I loved to eat.  I stuffed my face to stuff my feelings.  I was afraid I would lose my shield and have no way to comfort myself.

I am so glad I had the surgery.  Is it easy? No.  Is it a daily challenge?  Yes,

Would I do it again.  Definitely!!!

Good Luck and we will save room for you on the losers bench!!

Steve

I was terrified as well but when I got to the hospital and was surrounded by all those caring people who worked there (I had wonderful medical care), I just gave up all my fears and let things go.  It turned out that my husband was more terrified that I was and was afraid to even tell me I love you when they came to take me away because he would burst into tears.  If you are really, really scared ask them if they can give you atavar (I think that is how you spell it) to calm your nerves.

It's a scary thing, and I don't think you should do it unless or until you're 100% positive that it's what YOU want to do. Can you simply delay for a few weeks?

How much weight do you need to lose? What health problems do you have? What sort of success have you had with dieting in the past? Which form of WLS are you scheduled to have on Friday?

Seriously---think twice, cut once.

Of course you are scared!  That is totally appropriate.  It is scary to be morbidly obese but we don't choose that in one moment.  

I was terrified but ultimately was more terrified of the certain decline in my quality of life and health if I stayed morbidly obese.  Having the surgery was the most proactive step for health I have ever taken.  I am totally grateful for it.  I have a deep wish that the surgery was available to every person on the planet who is suffering from obesity.  We are blessed to have access to it.

You are about to partake in the most wonderful adventure of your lifetime.  Really.  This will be a source of joy and wonder in your life.  Good things are waiting for you and for your loving, supportive husband.  You can do this!  You really can.  All will be well!