Why Did You Bother?

I read about wls failures all the time, people who made it to goal and gained it all back or people who get revised to another surgery because the first one didn't work as expected.  It leads me to the question of why did you have wls in the first place, what exactly was the motivation and the expectation and what is your responsiblity in all of this.  I can tell you for a fact I carry around a ****load of guilt that I had to resort to surgery to fix my inability to diet and keep myself from becoming diabetic which means I take a serious interest in keeping myself from regaining.  I made it to my goal and I keep myself in check or my surgery keeps me in check and I remain where I am because I refuse to fail, I refuse to let anyone say look there goes another one who gained it all back, what a waste of our insurance dollars, they lose the weight and then start eating and drinking and stop trying to take care of themself.  Everyone knows that person who had wls and turned into an alchoholic or the one who gained it all back.  Do we have a responsiblity to keep ourselves healthy at whatever goal that means because we were given a gift of a second chance?  For me the answer is yes, I try to be a rolemodel of wls success because its important to me to keep diabetes as far at bay as possible and I want to be as thin and healthy as is possible for me.  Will I ever be a size 2 again, more then likely not, but I am squarely a 6 and here is where I plan to stay.  Honestly gaining more weight makes me depressed, its bad enough I have size 4 skirts that are tight, its amazing what 10lbs can do to your size, but I celebrate where I am, yes I said celebrate like actually go out and say yeah me on my recent wls anniversary.  Whats to celebrate on my birthday, the day I came into the world to two parents, one of who didn't want me, conceived on a night of drunk passion on new years.  Yeah my birthday doesn't mean very much to me at all, but my wls anniversary means the world to me, its the day I decided to be free of the bondage of excess weight.  And I say **** you to anyone who tries to take my day away from me, success is a choice, I chose to not fail wls and that does mean some sacrifice.  There is no ice cream on earth that tastes as good as a thin healthy body feels.  Period.

Can I hear an AMEN!

It kills me when people come back here for advice on regain and the advice they get is "Revise to the DS"

Smart money says, in 10 years those "revisors" will have regain.  Not because of the surgery they have chosen because they haven't worked the surgery.

It is frustrating to read the "ads" for DS.

"Eat everything you want and still lose weight!!!!, 'Cmon, Have some bacon"

When people have regain, it is because calories in were greater than calories expended.  That's how it works.  We can't eat everything we want because we want more than we need.

We didn't have surgery on our brains

Pup

Oh my.  I see a surgery war beginning to brew.  Hope you've got your flame retardent panties on darling.

*Ears perking up*  Bacon?  Did someone say Bacon?  MMMMM.

 I eat bacon because I can!!!!!!!

To Heidi,
What a "WLS SNOB" YOU are! ! !

** A person who believes himself or herself an expert or connoisseur in a given field AND is condescending toward or disdainful of those who hold other opinions or have different tastes regarding this field. snob -noun Definition: 1. somebody who looks down on others: an admirer and cultivator of people with high social status (insert->OR has had wls) who disdains those considered inferior 2. somebody who feels superior: somebody who disdains people considered to have inferior knowledge or tastes (insert->OR doesn't live up to the 'wls standards by which the SNOB feels is acceptable).

eta: trying to fix SPACE

Well said, happy late surgery anniversary!

Because.

People are human and they **** up.

Life, it happens.  Medical issues arise that can cause weight gain, even after a weight loss surgery procedure.  Babies happen.  

PEOPLE SCREW UP!

If we weren't human none of us would be on this ******g message board to begin with, because none of us would have had to RESORT to life-altering surgery because we could FIX IT OURSELVES.

I'm too fat, guess I'll diet off 200 pounds today!

I don't think anyone sabotages their loss on purpose - at least not that they are AWARE of.

Morbid obesity and addiction go hand in hand, people relapse, over and over and over again.

Guilt is NOT the answer to curing morbid obesity.  Guilt poisons you.

If you knew getting pregnant would give you grand mal seizures and all the problems you have had since would you have had an abortion?  I have read all your information of when you problems with RH and seizures started and its all tied to the pregnancy after the wls, maybe people of child bearing age shouldn't have wls because the risk is too high.  I was at the end of my rope health wise not just uncomfortably fat, diabetes was always my worst fear, I lived watching my mother for 30 years lying on the floor regularly while the paramedics tried to bring her back from the brin****il they couldn't anymore.  This journey for me is personal, life altering, my last chance and I refuse to shove something in my mouth thats going to **** it up.  Maybe you should never of had wls in the first place and maybe we should never allow anyone to have it who isn't willing to take the risk of dying on the table to have a second chance.  And I do feel guilty that my company had to pay for me to have a surgery for something I should have been able to control myself, but I take responsiblity for all my actions not just the ones I pick and choose too.  Hence the reason I support my son and don't toss him in the street and let the state pick up the tab.  Its called responsiblity, for me it never ends and it fully encompasses all the actions.