Why Did You Bother?

Kristopia
on 4/7/11 5:09 am - Durham, NC
VSG on 07/21/09 with
Perhaps you just have trouble with comprehending that your comments come off as judgmental, but you do need to take a look at your posts if you think you're not judging others.  Celebrate your loss - great.  Work hard not to re-gain....fantastic.  But don't assume that everyone will have the same experience.  You're saying to people here what people probably said to you before you had surgery - why don't you just exercise?  Why don't you just exert a little willpower?

If those things worked, you'd never have had the surgery, nor would anyone else have needed to.  Regain can be a factor of MANY things, and not just someone who is eating too many calories. I can safely say that's bull**** I had a severe metabolic issue before I had surgery - my doctor and I worked together to discover why I COULD NOT lose weight anymore.  I was put on a 1000 calorie a day diet and worked out 6 days a week.  I never deviated.  In 6 weeks, I lost 1/2 pound.  Surgery was my only option.  I have been an incredibly slow loser.  I've lost about 100 lbs, but in the last 6 months I have been stalled, wavering over the same damn 10 pounds...I take in way fewer calories than I "should" because stuff doesn't work for my body as it works for average folks.  The metabolic issues are still there, and still fighting me.

Have I given up?  No, because I feel better and look better than I did before my surgery.  But if I have to get a revision to get to goal, I will.

You see, you are YOU.  Not anyone else.  To say that what you do is what everyone else should do is JUST as judgmental as others who probably told you to just exert a little willpower before your surgery.  To tell Beth that her medical issues are BECAUSE of her pregnancy is ridiculous - you're not her doctor - her doctors don't even know that.  To suggest to her that she should have had an abortion because pregnancy after WLS is dangerous is not only judgmental, but it is ignorant and displays a complete lack of knowledge about the risks.

Stick with your own plan - but don't presume to think that if everyone did what you do, they would be just fine. 
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M M
on 4/7/11 5:11 am, edited 4/7/11 5:38 am
 The "baby" thanks you.
NursieGirl
on 4/7/11 10:25 am
Is it wrong that my only reaction to this thread is to want to go make a post-WLS baby?
                                                                
    
Jackie McGee
on 4/7/11 10:43 am - PA
Nope, because my first reaction was to have another one!

 Proud mama of Mischa and Gabriel, both born post-op.

Baby Blues
on 4/7/11 10:46 am - Roy, UT
You did pretty damn good with the first. I say go for it.
I'm selfish, impatient, and a little insecure. I make mistakes. I am out of control and at times hard to handle, but if you can't handle me at my worst...then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.     ---Marilyn Monroe
Jackie McGee
on 4/7/11 10:49 am - PA
I plan on it! I'm just going to wait a year or two - I think my head would explode if I had two little guys in diapers at the same time :)

 Proud mama of Mischa and Gabriel, both born post-op.

Baby Blues
on 4/7/11 10:45 am - Roy, UT
I will make one with you. 
I'm selfish, impatient, and a little insecure. I make mistakes. I am out of control and at times hard to handle, but if you can't handle me at my worst...then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.     ---Marilyn Monroe
NursieGirl
on 4/7/11 10:47 am
I think you have enough (and I'm not big on the turkey-baster method either)
                                                                
    
Baby Blues
on 4/7/11 10:49 am - Roy, UT
Have you met the ones I got? ALL BOYS.  Can we try for a girl? Pretty Please? LOL
I'm selfish, impatient, and a little insecure. I make mistakes. I am out of control and at times hard to handle, but if you can't handle me at my worst...then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.     ---Marilyn Monroe
MarciRenee
on 4/7/11 2:33 pm - IA
 
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