Why Did You Bother?

On April 7, 2011 at 7:17 AM Pacific Time, MyLady Heidi wrote: I read about wls failures all the time, people who made it to goal and gained it all back or people who get revised to another surgery because the first one didn't work as expected.  It leads me to the question of why did you have wls in the first place, what exactly was the motivation and the expectation and what is your responsiblity in all of this.  I can tell you for a fact I carry around a ****load of guilt that I had to resort to surgery to fix my inability to diet and keep myself from becoming diabetic which means I take a serious interest in keeping myself from regaining.  I made it to my goal and I keep myself in check or my surgery keeps me in check and I remain where I am because I refuse to fail, I refuse to let anyone say look there goes another one who gained it all back, what a waste of our insurance dollars, they lose the weight and then start eating and drinking and stop trying to take care of themself.  Everyone knows that person who had wls and turned into an alchoholic or the one who gained it all back.  Do we have a responsiblity to keep ourselves healthy at whatever goal that means because we were given a gift of a second chance?  For me the answer is yes, I try to be a rolemodel of wls success because its important to me to keep diabetes as far at bay as possible and I want to be as thin and healthy as is possible for me.  Will I ever be a size 2 again, more then likely not, but I am squarely a 6 and here is where I plan to stay.  Honestly gaining more weight makes me depressed, its bad enough I have size 4 skirts that are tight, its amazing what 10lbs can do to your size, but I celebrate where I am, yes I said celebrate like actually go out and say yeah me on my recent wls anniversary.  Whats to celebrate on my birthday, the day I came into the world to two parents, one of who didn't want me, conceived on a night of drunk passion on new years.  Yeah my birthday doesn't mean very much to me at all, but my wls anniversary means the world to me, its the day I decided to be free of the bondage of excess weight.  And I say **** you to anyone who tries to take my day away from me, success is a choice, I chose to not fail wls and that does mean some sacrifice.  There is no ice cream on earth that tastes as good as a thin healthy body feels.  Period. What a "WLS SNOB" YOU are! ! !

** A person who believes himself or herself an expert or connoisseur in a given field AND is condescending toward or disdainful of those who hold other opinions or have different tastes regarding this field.   snob  -noun Definition: 1. somebody who looks down on others: an admirer and cultivator of people with high social status (insert->OR has had wls) who disdains those considered inferior 2. somebody who feels superior: somebody who disdains people considered to have inferior knowledge or tastes (insert->OR doesn't live up to the 'wls standards by which the SNOB feels is acceptable).

 

wow. Is that person here a lot? I'm new and this is the first thing I read. Maybe I'll just wander on back to my other boards. But, out of curiosity, just who is trying to take her day away from her?

I don't know as I don't usually come to the main board...but her posts are often angry...she is not a happy person and has been repeatedly told/asked to seek therapy.

And NO ONE is trying to take her day away!!  That's the funny/sad thing - we would all celebrate with her if she wasn't being such a colossal ****waffle.

****waffle! HAHAHAH!

"****waffle"... WIN!!!

****waffle LMAO!!!

Beth (MM) made some off-the-cuff remark about the fact that she, Beth, doesn't make a big thing about her "surgiversary", and Heidi took that to meant that she (Heidi) was no longer allowed to celebrate her own. Beth and Heidi are VERY different---Beth has had a lot of post-op problems, and they have led HER to more fully embrace the joys in life. Heidi, on the other hand, is miserable and seems to like it that way.

Thanks, MsBatt for explaining why everyone was so offended by the OP...I didn't know the history.  I get it now...thanks again.

This Heidi ***** seems like a real douche. You wanna be angry all day, get off the boards bc nobody wants to hear some snot starting threads to start trouble bc they have nothing else in their life. She is like a forum terrorist.