I Hate it when.....

   I am so proud of the choices I have made to make myself healthier and more active.... yeah for all the right reasons and I have to admit I do like the side perks... No more BP meds for me... I can fit in auditorium chairs with out squishing the people on either side of me... I can walk with out panting.. can go to gym and actually survive 20 min or so on the EVIL Elyptical machine... can do circuit. training as well.... for all these things I am  so damn proud of myself...  I love the  congrats I am  proud of you's....
 THEN.... someone from my own family is telling me... you know all you had to do was be on a moderate "diet" and you could have lost weight... HELLO if it was that "easy" don't you think I would have done it by now?? Not that the Jenny Craig, NutriSystem, WW, Pills, Optifast, and all the other diets I was on previously  matter... obviously I wasn't successful....  

 I wish I wasn't so "worried" about upsetting my brother... if I didn't care I would tell my sister in law to go **** herself and stay the **** out of my life... I love my neices and nephews to much to  cut that tie... so like a good little girl I said I am glad you have your opinion regarding WLS and I have mine... and I stand 100%  behind my  convictions & beliefs...  with that I keep my head held high and avoid her like the plague...

needed to rant and rave...

 That is all we can do....stand behin d our choices. You should be proud of making yourself healthier and more active. THat is not an easy thing to do and it is even harder to keep doing. So stand true to yourself and hang in there!


Dottie

Thank you Dottie.

She's wrong and we could provide you with pages of documentation to prove her so....but why bother?!?!? She's wrong. Let her say it all she wants. You made a wise decision. Enjoy the fruits of that. Susan

You've done great, Tammy.  You made the right choices that are best for your health and your life.  All the "wow" moments you describe above prove that you made the right choice.  The proof is in the pudding, and your results speak for themselves.

 

 You could tell her that if she didn't want to upset people she could shut her mouth and keep her opinions to herself, lol.

Just smile and say "Thanks for sharing" and move on. Those people are not worth your time and effort.

I have one sister in-law that has had WLS herself and one that, how shall I
put it ???? ...hmmmm..... while she's not what you would call "skinny" - she
is not by any stretch of the imagination, over weight. For as long as I can recall at every family fuction she manages to interject "weight" into the conversation. Of couse being the only over weight person in the family,
let alone in the house, it makes me extremely uncomfortable. To me it is obvious that I am the proverbial pink elephant in the room. It took me a
while but I have finally had enough of it and simply walk out of the room
when she starts the "discussion." I chalk it up to her ignorant insensitivity.

It will be very interesting to see how she responds to the results of my WLS. Wait!!!!! On second thought I don't give a fat rat's patootie what she thinks. As for your sister in-law, she is obvioulsy uneducated when it comes to this topic. Perhaps you could respond to her by first thanking her for her "opinion" (that's the hard part but it often catches the other person off
guard) then go on to suggest she broaden her understanding of WLS through research. Close by implying, with a smile, that when she does, you will be happy to revisit the discussion.

Just a thought.....you didn't mention her physical attributes. Could it possibly be the rising of that ugly three headed monster known as JEALOUSY??? Is your relationship with your brother such that you could take him aside and explain your feelings? Maybe he could step-in (gingerly of course) and come
to your defense?

Enough about "them". Congrats on all you have and will accomplish for yourself. Don't let them steal your joy. God Bless.

K

Or you can slap your forehead and say "OMG, NOW you tell me???"

She'll get the idea - she said a stupid thing.

HAHAHA   THIS!!!