How To Maintain Without Dieting Or Exercising.

Glad your RH is under better control, Beth.

I too feel like I'm living a normal life now.  I pretty much eat what I want, when I want and have maintained weight loss.  Fortunately I haven't had any complications and I'm thankful still today for WLS.

Beth - I am neither gay or a homewrecker, but...will you marry me? LOL - I so love you! Maybe because you remind me so much of me - heh!

I am also a proud member of the apathy club - not quite where the charts say I should be, but living a somewhat normal life, and happy with where my body is at. Thanks again for keeping it so real!

Beth,

I only wish I could put what you just said in words myself. Im a member of the apathy club too.

Some people say but you still weigh like 220 thats still overweight/obese. Yet these same people fail at seeing im in size 10/12 pants (usually smaller than alot that try to say anything to me). I am completely comfortable where I am and know this is where my body wants to be. It takes a crazy bunch of BS for me to drop much lower. I'll pass. As like many I just want to feel normal, thats eating in moderation and being smart about it.

I love your posts

Hey y'all, will you all be my friends? LOL! I am 10 days post op today, and while I  am feeling much better, both physically and emotionally, than I did last week, reading some of the posts on here makes me freak out.  It almost seems like we are trading one bad habit-eating anything and everything, for another-only eating one food group and freaking out even then.  It is still not eating a balanced, healthy life-it's not living.  When I am able to chew again-which is hopefully scrambled eggs tomorrow, I want to eat healthily from all of the food groups.  Obsessing about every bite I put in my mouth does not work for me.  That's why I wasn't successful with Weigh****chers-I completely obsessed about how many points I was eating and stayed hungry all the time because that is all I could think about!! Anywho, Thanks again for some balance, and I hope you all get and stay well. :)

I LOVE YOUR POSTS! being comfortable in your own skin ( or skins) is such a beautiful thing! something  never i truely experienced until now (even in my big and beautiful days), i pray everything else for you continues to resolve itself, looking forward to the next update!

MM that is awesome!  I am struggling to decide what my "comfortable weight" is! 
I was disappointed to read that your surgery did nothing for your left quadrant pain.  I am in the same exact boat and have just lived on pain meds for MANY months.  I have a Expl. coming up in June and we are going to tack down the connection in the intestines hoping that is the problem, but reading your post concerns me that this is life.  I have not found ANY relation to TOM or food, etc.  I have severe doubled over attacks that seem to appear for no reason?   Hope things get better!

You GO, Girl!

I am jealous lol, when I become apathetic I gain weight. I have to live like obesity is breathing down my neck trying to get me back.

I am extremely militant with what I eat and my exercise but apathy would be nice and conducive to a normal life. My OCD of my weight and what I eat takes up a lot of my life and interferes with certain things like meeting friends for lunch (after all if I dont prepare it I can't trust it)

I was at my goal weight - not a perfect weight for my height but my goal weight and was maintaining.  After about 6- 8 months, I gained the typical 10 pounds but was still happy where I was - no exercising and pretty much eating what I wanted.  Ate a piece of cake if I wanted once a week, had popcorn every night and was doing great.

I ended up having major complications requiring 4 open surgeries, 2 plus months in the hospital and everything changed.  I lost an additional 45 pounds and am now 15-20 pounds underweight, a great deal under my goal.  I eat and eat and eat, all high calorie foods and can't gain a pound.  I finally stopped losing but can't gain. I know this is the opposite problem of everyone but it too is a problem.  I look really skinny and sickly.  I recently went to a Passover seder and one of the young ladies sitting opposite me that I never met before kept offering to get me stuff and serve me.  The only thing I could think of is that she thought I was very sick.  I also lost alot of hair from the stress of the surgeries.

Like you, I am also in constant pain since.  I am on really strong pain meds 3-4 times per day. I am trying to lower my dosages but it is tough.