Ok this is really difficult for me but I have to admit it.
My body makes me feel unworthy of my hubby. I do NOT enjoy the sexual aspect of marriage because when we do have sex, I keep thinking he is going to be grossed out by me.
Yes I know this is more of a mental issue AND I am getting therapy for that sort of thing-among other stuff.

What I want to know is, does anyone else have feelings like this or am I alone in my own dinky lil universe?

(Have not had my surgery yet, no date set because the surgeon is waiting on results back from my chest x-ray- results will be there by Monday. Everything else has panned out. Also waiting on paperwork to be submitted to Tricare for approval or not. So basically two weeks before I hear anything.*crosses fingers*)

As a person who battles with the same issues and having fought my feelings for the past 22 years of my marriage - I will tell you what my husband has told me over the years and keeps telling me.  He loves me and doesn't see me the way I see myself, he finds me attractive and loves  that aspect of our life.  I am still a bit uncomfortable but I am getting better and if you aren't sure ask your husband how he feels.  He may look at you the way mine did with a look like I was crazy and he would rather me not think of myself as gross.

I posed this same question to him this morning and he told me I was a bit off in the head if I was thinking that way. Some of these feelings about myself raised their ugly heads in my first marriage and it seems they stayed put. I will not go into the first marriage aspect because that is done. I guess I should just stop with the nasty thinking that ALL men are going to find me gross.

I thought I was the only one with this issue. I am hoping for a better self image after surgery. I have a strong marriage even though there is a lack of sex. For a long time my husband thought it was his fault for my refusals. I had a long talk with him that it was me. I do not feel that I deserve his love. I am learning to love myself. He is being very understanding and not pressuring me.

I had the same issue.  I can only tell you from my experience that my husband has been very patient with me.  I just felt so hideoues and like a blob.
Since I am well enough now for "benefits",  I can just tell you that my husband has helped me get over my doubts by his enthusiasm.  LOL!

I think it is great that you talked to your husband about this.  That is key in getting past stuff like this.  Tell your reall feelings and be ready to let him tell you his.  Working on it together, I hope it results in LOTS of fun, if you know what I mean.  

Good luck!
Rosie