Assertiveness and personal boundary setting
www.amazon.com/Willpower-Rediscovering-Greatest-Human-Streng th/dp/1594203075/ref=sr_1_1
once upon a time I had a group to talk about Binge Eating Disorder, and later one about Clean Eating.
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size 8, life is great
once upon a time I had a group to talk about Binge Eating Disorder, and later one about Clean Eating.
PM me if you are interested in either of these.
size 8, life is great
Why? Just leave things alone.
If I were you, I would resist the urge to have the last word to even to try to understand their motives or agenda - they thrive on this. I find it easier to ignore - literally, if I get the feeling that a discussion has become personal (and it's amazing how many people think everything you write is aimed at them!!!!) , I just don't even read their replies.
If the "bullies" as you see them bother you - block them (all of them or they just quote you for their pals), it doesn't mean they won or that you lost - it just means that you don't have to read their **** any more and they don't get the opportunity to read your pearls of wisdom
Proud Feminist, Atheist, LGBT friend, and Democratic Socialist
"What the caterpillar calls the end of the world, the master calls the butterfly." Richard Bach
"Support fosters your growth. If you are getting enough of the right support, you will experience a major transformation in yourself. You will discover a sense of empowerment and peace you have never before experienced. You will come to believe you can overcome your challenges and find some joy in this world." Katie Jay
Some suggestions for you:
1) Review your professional code of ethics.
2) Take some continuing education courses to make sure you actually UNDERSTAND your responsibilities under your professional code of ethics.
3) Bring your posts to a licensed professional to review, to see if you are violating your professional code of ethics - to say nothing of making a fool of yourself.
4) Do some research on your own - here's a starting point for you: http://onlinetherapyinstitute.ning.com/profiles/blogs/the-on line-behaviour-of-a
"It is worth discussing how professional psychologists could potentially violate ethical issues in anonymous environments. It’s apparent that anonymity increases disinhibition (Suler, 2004) and often promotes immoral behaviour such as flaming (Moor et al, 2010; Douglas & McGarty, 2001; 2002), bullying (Misna et al, 2009; Tokunaga, 2010) and general hate (Douglas, 2007). "
I'm being very careful about my professional boundaries, and I am well aware of them, but thanks for your information.
I am on this forum as a fellow human being and WLS person, and am doing my best to be supportive of myself and others. I am not perfect, nor do I want to be; I simply want to practice. If I appear foolish sometimes, so be it. One has to learn by trial and error. Do you know how many times Edison had to try in order to invent the light bulb?
It has to not matter to me what other people think of me- it is up to me to learn to stand my own ground and choose my own battles. I am open to feedback- from voices with a track record.
"What the caterpillar calls the end of the world, the master calls the butterfly." Richard Bach
"Support fosters your growth. If you are getting enough of the right support, you will experience a major transformation in yourself. You will discover a sense of empowerment and peace you have never before experienced. You will come to believe you can overcome your challenges and find some joy in this world." Katie Jay
Bullying does happen. The bullies would never acknowledge that is what they are doing. Just like real life.
Some people create drama. Probably the same people that create drama in their personal lives and thrive on it. Other people respond to the drama with their own drama.
Some people go on the attack at the flip of a switch. This probably mirrors real life too.
It can be easy to get sucked into all of that, but just like in real life, we can choose how we react.
Given that these people have zero impact on my life, I just choose to not to become involved with that stuff at all. I just don't have any good reason to care so much about what is happening on the internet. If I find myself wrapped up in something like that, I step away from the computer for a while. It takes tons of energy to be angry. It sucks up time to read pages of threads of people trying to get in as many little digs as they can, all while trying to argue their point. If I waste even an hour on it, that is one hour down the tubes that has not made life any better for me or for anyone else.
I think if you find this stuff consuming a lot of your time and/or emotional energy, it is probably worthwhile to ask why.
For me, my own empowerment and recovery is worth a hell of a lot of energy, emotional or otherwise.
"What the caterpillar calls the end of the world, the master calls the butterfly." Richard Bach
"Support fosters your growth. If you are getting enough of the right support, you will experience a major transformation in yourself. You will discover a sense of empowerment and peace you have never before experienced. You will come to believe you can overcome your challenges and find some joy in this world." Katie Jay
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