It's time.

Oh has recently changed their policies in how they handle the Main Board, thanks be to the heavens above!!! It has become a well moderated place where the meaness and nastiness simply aren't tolerated anymore, and where the safety and genuine support are available.

Stick around and check it out and please keep posting!

 Perhaps we should take lessons from other boards? 

Yeah, well, heavy-handed moderation isn't what makes my favorite boards enjoyable. It's even-handed moderation. The moderation here is capricious. If it's going to be hit or miss and arbitrary, then I want it to be light. Because heavy-handed moderation that is capricous is a collosal PITA.

2. Hurt people hurt others by gossiping, criticizing, and judging others.

3. Hurt people have been hurt in the past.

4. Hurt people have difficulty seeing beauty.

These are so true.  You can see it every time, with every person that leads with hate instead of leading with love.  They've come to hate some aspect about themselves or their past, and instead of dealing with it, or walking away, they turn it all outwards while huddling together in their misery. 

I like that you've come to the realization that you have the power, ultimately.  You ever notice that hurt people don't always realize they have the power to change and/or leave?  They keep around, keep fussing with what bothers them, making sure that hurt remains an old friend.  We humans like familiarity too much.  It's sad.

   
Your posts,  your insight,  your experience,  your sense of humour,  your honesty.. are some  of the reasons, I even read the main board on OH. 

Just know.. for all you have been through..and all that people "throw" at you...  YOU are helping..!!!

And in life.. even if you only get through to ONE  person... and guide or help ONE person...  that's all that counts.. !!!

Bravo

 Thank you.

I am posting this here because the poster I am responding to has me blocked.

It is not a person's fault and it is not their responsibility if and when people abuse them. That is called blaming the victim. Beth has nothing to be responsible for other than being constructive and loving and making a difference postitively if she can.

There is no call for and should be zero tolerance for name calling, personal putdowns, and nastiness for nastiness's sake, especially on a support forum where we are all dealing with struggles. Hot stoves don't belong on support forums.

yep , agree 

MM, I want you to know that the issues with everyone, well as i'm sure you already know it's just a part of life.

I went to a restaurant the other night. As we left we had to walk thru a crown of young hispanic men. Prior to my RNY it would have thrown my into a panic attack. I'd have been sure every laugh was about me and every word spoken in spanish was about me, I know way more spanish than I choose to speak.

Anyway I told my son that prior to my surgery I would have gotten into the truck with a panic attack beginning. He said don't worry, you aren't that same person anymore. I told him I was the same person, I just didn't look the same. He didn't understand the difference.

That is what is happening, in a way, in your life right now. People who are following your, for their own desires either good or bad, are not knowing the real you. They just know what info you put out there for them to read.

You choose to put that information out there, so they choose to use it against you. People are mean like that. High school never truly ends....does it?

I wish everyone would just simply read your posts and understand that they come from a very special place. That sometimes you need to say things and bring them into the light so that you can examine them and decide what to do.

Life is difficult for all of us in one way or another I'm sure. No one is immune!!!!

All I can say is try to not let the hater's get you too down. You are appreciated more than you are hated upon. We may not always post to tell you so, but that doesn't always reflect upon our true selves.

I am following you on facebook, and your blog, and I follow weighty secrets too. Love them all.

You offer a truth to WLS that a lot of others don't. I give you credit and full props for not sugar coating things. You truly show your life as it is. The good and the bad. I do admire you.

I don't care if you make money blogging. That has nothing to do with the medical issues you face. I don't believe that you have munchausen's either. I think you are truly going thru some stuff that is not normal in a WLS post-op. I hope they figure out what is going on for you and you are able to heal from it.

Tho until then, and until the haters grow up and learn to live and let live, well I wish you well, peace and love!!!!

 Nod.  You get it.  Thank you very much.