It's time.

Beth, please be gentle with yourself- you are doing just plenty to be constructive and caring and growing and learning. And you are so right- changing is very difficult, and it also takes enormous courage.

Thank you for your postive leadership on this board- I love your creativity!

I've been a user of the block button on many forums for years.   Just cause they say it, doesn't mean it's true or I have to read it.
Powerful post..... though you know the ones that really need to read it and take it to heart, won't.
Keep posting, your words will always impact someone that needs to hear them at that very moment.  
I've read you on OH since I joined back in 2004, almost a year before my surgery. 
I've read your good, your bad, I've even managed to read you when OH moderated and banned you!

Sometimes WLS is not the end to our problems but only the beginning and of course some of us are "broken" after the surgery.   Not only physically but mentally, also.  Mentally because we can no longer use food to "heal" us and we have to face some ugly truths.   Some people can't face the ugly truth and lash out at others.   They are the hurt and broken ones also, they just don't see it (yet, perhaps one day they will, we could hope.)

The one thing I have learned in the last eight years:  WLS doesn't fix ANYTHING.  It's a band-aid and can be ripped off at any moment.  This is why support is CRITICAL.  I fear that many who are so cruel -- aren't getting what it is that they ARE CRYING OUT FOR.

All I can say is nice post.  I still love ya and will ALWAYS be here for you.....

 Thank you.

And I am sorry that this has been inflicted on you, too.  You do not deserve it.

Very insightful, MM.  The only suggestion I would make is to put snippets on the BBGC where other people could read it.(Yes, I"m on the there)

Thank you for the clarification - I shared.

Sorry, Beth.  I should have clarified myself.  What really stands out is the hurt that gets inflected on people, whether it's intentional or not.
Kathy

We get so much more when we choose to support each other rather then compete. Success is not finite, there really is enough to go around. And no we will not always agree... and that should be OK... Adults should know how to disagree without getting personal.  What works for some may not work for others and that is OK... and yes MM it is about time... thank you for leading the charge... it is what you do well.... 
Which is one of the things that I love about you... 

 Better to wait until you are feeling at your best if you want to attract someone who is at their best.   Love this. Thanks for posting.  I have always been inspired by everything you post and have felt pain when you were attacked.