It's time.

For someone who doesn't read her blog, you sure are opinionated about what she does and doesn't say and how her writing has changed over time. 

 I delete posts because they are used to bully me after the fact.

I'm not a ******g victim.

I am standing UP.

 McM -

"My" community has never been cruel like this -- in any way.  We have tiffs here and there between people who just can't get along, and people do move on if they don't fit, it's a matter of using your X button and shutting down.

BUT -- I haven't seen anyone bring it to the 8th grade girl level like this.

You also know, there's nothing to be jealous of.

I disagree about the jealousy thing. The way I see it is that you have a successful business. How successful only you know, but it sure appears successful and that's what people go by. Plus you have a following... people who care about what you say and go looking for your words. So that's something people are going to be jealous of no matter what the reality is of you entire life which, like everyone, has parts that aren't worth being jealous of.

There are some, the ones I think of as the Mean Girls, who also want that sort of business for themselves. They are jealous that you have it and they don't and they showed their jealousy last year in some of the things they said and did. The fact that they've been so unsuccessful at getting the same thing for themselves doesn't help matters.

The others, the ones I think of as the Harsh Ones, are now trying to start a new board to compete with OH. And you aren't running over there supporting them and cutting down OH at every turn. You are still here. Other people haven't run over to the new board either, but no one cares about what they think and do the way they care about what you think and do.

I'm not saying you are perfect or that you've never done anything worth complaining about or haven't contributed to what's going on in any way. I just think this whole "you've throw 'your' community under the bus because you won't slag OH" is freaking ridiculous.

 Hey!  Don't lie!  I totally joined the other community.  I join most WLS communities to at least check them out once. 

I was banned after one post to the anti-OH site -- notified yesterday I think -- in my real online name.  I was called "antagonistic" and that I had to seek apologies from these women before I could partake in their anti-OH forum.  She was kind, however.  I'm not angry.  I get why they don't want me there.

But, it makes little sense for any of them to remain here -- for the same reason.  And, additionally to "save our souls" from misinformation and whatnot.   *shrug*

I've done alright.  I still don't know what I am doing, but it's helped me define what I might like to find a career in... or more specifically what I do not want to do.  Let people be jealous -- I don't see WHY -- I work for what I earn and I like doing it -- anyone can do it.  

Heh, I didn't say you didn't join. I said you weren't over there cutting down OH right and left. 

But I think it's funny they banned you for being "antagonistic" when part of the rational for starting that board was to escape the heavy-handed moderation over here. 

"...is nothing YOU have done on the board. It is the antagonistic relationships you have developed with many of our members. Your presence disrupts the positive atmosphere of our board.

I believe in second chances, so the door isn't necessarily closed forever. But, you have some relationships to repair first and the place to do that is on OH where the damage occurred." 

I'm supposed to APOLOGIZE to the women who called me an ungrateful Munchausen's shill c_cksucker.

As you know, I've gotten much of the same crap. I just figure they are jealous and threatened, and don't take it personally. The message says far more about the messenger than it does the recipient.

I'm just so profoundly grateful the crap is no longer tolerated on the Main Board.

You keep hanging in there doing what you do so beautifully, OK? Like you say, support is critical!

 I keep telling myself that.  I am more impacted that they say these things -- and really don't know anything about me.  

I am keeping on.  

It's an astounding aspect of the human condition, isn't it?  How many people can so easily reduce a complex human being to a stereotyped caricature - that's bad enough.  But next, they'll judge you so much more harshly than they would themselves. 

Is this a symptom of small minds, or small hearts?

Speaking of small minds, this makes me think of the Roosevelts - I love the philosophy that both of them lived.  Eleanor was attributed as saying, "Great minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, small minds discuss people".