Offended but justified?

I have been seeing this guy for a couple months now.  I am honest fairly quickly about my weight loss.  It comes up rather quickly anyway.  I lost a lot of weight and have a lot of extra skin on my arms where anyone can see, and under the clothes where they cant.  I finally felt safe enough with this gentleman to show him my before pics like he has been asking. 

He was an ass.  He made comments like, "OMG!  you were HUGE.  I totally would not have dated you.  How did you get pregnant??  or have sex at all?"  etc.  Things that I have heard in the past when i was big.  Things people say now to me that are totally offensive stilll about other people who happen to be obese. 

I have learned not to cry in front of bullies.  It makes them come at you harder and it ****** me off when I show weakness.  But here is this guy who I (up to this point) like and respect being a complete asshole about me.  Because although I dont look like that girl in the picture anymore, I AM her.  I still have her thoughts and feelings.  I still remember the pain of being teased and the cruel comments people used to make.  I couldn't stop the tears from welling up. Which made me angry. 

He apologized.  But he did it with a laugh and added that he couldnt understand why i was offended since i didnt look like that anymore.  He also gave me a friendly warning to watch my children as they are chunky kids (his words) and i wouldnt want them to get as big as a house like i did.  (GRRRRRRR) 

I guess i was offended by the cruelty.  That it was me in the pic was worse....but i think i would have been equally pissed off to hear him comment on a total stranger in the way he did.  I dont know if I "should" feel offended, but I do.  And I cant seem to shake it loose.  And to be honest, I dont think I want to be with someone who can be that cruel to another human being.  And the other thought in my head is, if you wouldnt have dated me when i was obese but had all of my characteristics that you enjoy now, WHY should i let you enjoy those characteristic now just because of how I look? 

Am I making any sense?  I am kind of repulsed by him now!  Should I work to get over it and see where this goes, or cut him now?  It was really the only thing he has done that has made me think he is a jerk.  Other than that he has been totally nice.  But this was so huge!  ugh.  Am i being too sensitive? 

Personally,  I'd kick him to the curb. I can understand not being attracted to someone who's a larger size but his comments went beyond that to cruel. And the comments about your children would raise a huge red flag for me. I think that eventually  he would say those things to them, even if he said he was "just kidding"

UGH.  What a terrible thing he did.  Not only did he make awful comments, but didn't have the sense to understand what strength and trust it took for you to share the photos with him.  I'm sorry.  You are not being too sensitive.  You are being human.  HE, on the other hand, is being a complete asshat. 

Well, I won't tell you what to do but *I* would probably dump him ... The fact that he has no idea that his words would, and did, hurt you does not bode well for him treating you respectfully in the long term.

I have no problem with someone preferring a thin partner to a fat one - my boyfriend and I are both into slimmer, fit people, but he has seen my "before" pictures and just said "They don't look like you".

The comments about your children were crass too - I'm sure it's not like you don't know they are having problems with their weight, but the cruel words will probably be aimed at them at some point too - that would be a dealbreaker for me!

That would be the end of it for me. His comments about you were beyond horrible but I draw the line at comments about my kids.

I would kick him to the curb. His comments to you were beyond cruel and you deserve better than that. Plus I would worry that he would make similar comments to your children and say he was only joking. I just can't stand cruel people and I'm sorry you had to hear this but at least you found out now instead of down the road. 

 You're not overreacting at all.  Yeah, it's totally fair that he may not have been attracted to you when you were bigger, but his way of communicating such a thing is way out of line!

 My thoughts are if he is a keeper he would have said  something like, "wow! You look totally different! Youve done a Great job. You look amazing. I'm proud of you". 

Agree! This is what a real man would say.. what he said.. puts him right in the dumpster in my eyes.

What a SHALLOW piece of work !! Insensitive and cruel.  Girl, don't thinkl twice about it, get rid of this piece of @$&%$ now, before he does the same cruel things to your children.  If not, well I guess you're looking at not only your own sorry %&$ future, but also the sorry ^$&% future for your kids with this guy. You've been strong enough to make major changes  in your life and you can do this too.
There's an actual grown man out there for you and your children, don't settle for this selfish cruel child in a mans body.