Am I the only one who never got tiny?

RNY takes off about 100 pounds and the rest is because you did fantastic.  But dieting long term is difficult and to maintain more than 100 pound loss usually involves strict diet and exercise.  Some people are different - most of them are men.  Some people think that eating a 1000 calories and working our for 5 hours a day is normal.  Most of us are happy to maintain 80 - 100 pounds of loss longterm.

We had surgery around the same time. I often wonder why some people lose more than others. So many factors seem to come into play. Sometimes there is no rhyme or reason from what I can see.

I have maintained my loss, but I don't do anything dramatic to do so. I usually eat around 1700-2000 calories a day and work out 3 times a week.

The lowest I got was 140.  I'm around 155 now, size 10 and quite comfortable.  I never saw a size lower than a 6, and thought I looked a little too small then.  I filled out in all the right places when I regained a little.

Nope!  I totally stopped losing at six months.  That was it.  Got down to about 170 and I've gained back between 12-15 pounds.  I've been at this weight for about three years though, so I guess this is where I land.  Except, not only do I have severe hypoglycemia, but now I have an abdominal hernia (from a different surgery I had after the RNY).  Still, I'm a lot smaller than I was before!

We start at different weights, heights, different co-morbs, different  contributing factors to being obese, so it only makes sense that our weight loss journeys are different too.

Some coast effortlessly to an 18 bmi, and some (like me) fought tooth and nail to BARELY make it into a normal BMI. I'm just grateful for the weight and co-morbs that are still gone, but am fine with the fact I'll never be a barbie.

I try not to focus too much on numbers - they're so arbitrary, and never tell the whole story. How do you feel? How is your life better now? What do your loved ones think about the changes?

It is definitely possible to lose - you will have this WLS tool for life. I feel confident that I can lose more weight any time I choose to put the effort into it, but I'm happy where I'm at so maintenance is practically effortless for me. No, I don't weigh 127 (my lowest), but who cares? I had this surgery to obtain a better quality of life - and for that I feel successful.

Try not to compare yourself to others - I know it's hard not to, but that can be so toxic. By just looking at your own progress, you are maintaining over 100 pounds of weight lost! That is very impressive! Besides, many of those that did get down so low had lower starting weights than you, and that will be reflected. You have come so far - don't trivialize that - you are a true success story!

no honey not all of us end up at 125, at my height I would look like a skeleton at that weight, even at 160lbs my lowest after plastics and no exercise for 9 months from complications from said plastics---I was way way too thin, no boobs, no butt, no strength no energy.

It is the grass is always greener---I was in single digit jeans one pair of 8's at that weight and as soon as I was released to exercise I put on muscle weight and they no longer fit.

I am tall for a woman so I can carry more weight than someone shorter. I am shaped like a pear so I will carry my weight differently.

I no longer worry about the number on the scale, or the number on my jeans(as these seem to be controlled by sadistic retailers and designers). I am much more concerned about my activity level-which is excellent for my age, my blood pressure-very good, my lab numbers-very stable with fantastic lipids. Yes those things are not seen on the outside but a better indicator of my renewed health.