I completely understand.  I have migraines, fibro and PMDD (PMS from hell).  My children are 9 and 10 and I hate to see them worry about me, and try to take care of me.  I take neurontin and cymbatla, which seem to help the fibro immensely. I take lorazapam at bedtime and generally sleep through the night.  I go to a pain clinic and he's trying to help, but he has no concept of PMDD.  My bad days are the 10 days before my period and first 2-3 days. Then I'm great for about 7-10 days. My cycle has gotten very unpredictable too.  I have the same kind of days that you described, days I can function by taking perc 10's, excedrin, phenergan, and a sudafed, and days when that's not enough for the pain and I can't function at all, luckily I only have about 2 of those a month.  I also have about 3 days where I have really bad depression, where I get very despondant, but the cymbalta has helped with that too.

My husband lost his job over 2 years ago, I've been a stay at home mom for 11 years. And now my family doesn't understand why I don't go back to work.  So not only do I have the guilt from worry about my kids, my family (dad) is giving me more for not finding a job.  You can't explain paralyzing pain to someone that hasn't expereinced it.

By the way, I just turned 40 this year. So, I should have a FEW good years left  8-)

Melanie

I had rny in 10/04. I have migraines and fibro.  I take neurontin for the fibro and it is a godsend.  For the migraines I go to a pain clinic and take perc 10, or oxycodone, the next step past loratabs.  And I agree it does wear off faster.  And I build up a tolerance faster than I did before I had the surgery.  The neurontin seems to help alot of my migraines too. I also have PMDD, which is PMS from hell.  The migraines I get now are hormonal, they are about 10 days before my perios and the first 3 days of my period. So I can take 2 or 3 perc 10's a day for 2 weeks and then stop with no withdrawals. I'd take more, but I have to measure them out so that I don't run out.  Good Luck, Melanie

Leechetta, i am so sorry you had to go though this. i had breast reduction and tummy tuck and muscle repair.  That was 4 years ago. I am just now out of pain from the muscle repair. It was the worst surgery i have had. all together i have had 8 surgeries. I can not believe the doctors don't understand what you must be going though. Are you going to pain management/ maybe you could get some help with your pain there.  I hope you find a doctor that will help you with your pain. I am so sorry this happen to you. take care debra

Hi Everyone, I have a question I was wondering if anyone that takes pain melds find that the pain meds wears off faster then they did before your surgery?  I found that i get a lot more brake though pain since the surgery then before .After about 3 hours I'm in more pain. Some days it feels like i have not even taken any pain meds.  I had the surgery 7 years ago.  My doctor don't believe that gastric bypass makes any difference. I am having to go to pain management. Since the pain med don't seem to help for very long he don't want to treat me for pain. I been taking loratabs 10s 3 times a day for 8 years and he took me off cold turkey. But, Didn't have any withdraws from  the loratabs. You would think i would.   After all this time. I have other medical conditions other then Fibromyalgia.   I don't know what pain management is like and what they do. Someone told me you think your pain away.  I will find out soon enough i guess.  I just wanted to know if anyone else has experience this also.  Please help me with this if you can. thank you, Debra

Thank You for responding.  I went to the surgen today and tried to explain my dilemma, Dr Johnson listened  to some things I said but told me that he did not feel that absorption would be a problem then I answered that  "isn't that why post op patients get megga doses of vitamins?"  I think he kinda did not know how to answer me as I tried to explain my concerns and the opposite ends of the spectrum my primary and fibromyalgia Dr's are at.  He kept cutting me off when I tried to explain and he came up with have your fibromyalgia Doctor write a letter stating why she feels you should not have it done.  So I will call her in the AM for that.  I think I was taking to much of his time.   I may call for a second opinion.   I asked about a gastric sleeve but he did not know if insurances in this area covered them, that would be a better option as I am trying to wean off the celebrex now ( just realized it was an NSAID).  If I can't get off of that it is another issue. 
I am down to 288 with my braces and shoes on so lost more than the 5% needed for the lap band so he suggested that we try to get insurance clearance for that, although he would rather do a RNY with my BMI. 
He also said I was a high risk due to my clotting history.  I actually told him how I felt when I started this venture.  I felt that I would not live through the surgery, but that I hurt so bad from the fibro and the arthritis I did not care if I died during surgery. 
Now that my pain is under control I do not want it to come back. I am able to do more now due to decreased pain so I want answers before I decide if and what surgery to have.