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Topic: RE: Defeated...
Rest and get ready to fight for all you deserve. I do understand where you are coming from. I have already had two total knee replacement, just found out I need a right shoulder total and surgery on the other and my neck is so bad I can't hardly move it. I said to my family truly the pain I am in and every thing is tooooooooooooooo much. But if we give up it will still hurt so we have to fight.
Keep us informed
many gentle hugs,
Pam
Keep us informed
many gentle hugs,
Pam
Topic: RE: Defeated...
OK....pick yourself up and try again. I know your pain when it comes to fibro. We are here to help you, I a, so sorry about your sister and I'm always here to talk if you ever need me, just send a PM.
Hugs
Maria
Hugs
Maria
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Topic: RE: Defeated...
They said Im not fat enough! I need to have a BMI of 50 or more to qualify under their standards. My BMI is 38.8. :(
Topic: RE: Defeated...
Dear avababe,
Time to move to "plan B". I was denied VSG surgery too. I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL. I was super down, defeated, blah, blah, and I just figured it'll never happen.
Guess what? I'm now 2 months post op for VSG!!!!! About 48 hours of giving up and I decided I WILL NOT give up. I looked at why I was denied, studied my insurance guidelines, googled "appeal for weight loss surgery", wrote a detailed 2 page letter using advice I found on line (such as the wording "I believe you based your decision on incomplete or incorrect information" etc), added my impassioned personal story, threw a little guilt trip on them, called about 6 times to speak to folks at the insurance company, and within 8 days, they overturned the decision. I just want to say from personal experience if you can find the fight in you, FIGHT. One of the main reasons I decided to appeal was a few folks on this site who suggested I not give up. THANKS TO YOU WHO ENCOURAGED ME.
If you need help sorting out how to appeal I'd be happy to help.
Do you know why?
Anne
Time to move to "plan B". I was denied VSG surgery too. I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL. I was super down, defeated, blah, blah, and I just figured it'll never happen.
Guess what? I'm now 2 months post op for VSG!!!!! About 48 hours of giving up and I decided I WILL NOT give up. I looked at why I was denied, studied my insurance guidelines, googled "appeal for weight loss surgery", wrote a detailed 2 page letter using advice I found on line (such as the wording "I believe you based your decision on incomplete or incorrect information" etc), added my impassioned personal story, threw a little guilt trip on them, called about 6 times to speak to folks at the insurance company, and within 8 days, they overturned the decision. I just want to say from personal experience if you can find the fight in you, FIGHT. One of the main reasons I decided to appeal was a few folks on this site who suggested I not give up. THANKS TO YOU WHO ENCOURAGED ME.
If you need help sorting out how to appeal I'd be happy to help.
Do you know why?
Anne
Topic: RE: Defeated...
Oh my! I don't know what to say except that you are not alone. That you will get thru this! Don't give up! You are not defeated...these are just road blocks.
PM me anytime if you need to talk in detail. I don't go on her much, but I am 3 years post op and have been recently diagnosed with FM.
PM me anytime if you need to talk in detail. I don't go on her much, but I am 3 years post op and have been recently diagnosed with FM.
Topic: Defeated...
Well... I think Im just about done. Things have just been awful and I just cant take anymore.
My husband has been MIA with work. Ive not seen him much in the last month- at all. Ive had NO break.
My daughter has been a holy terror.
My FMS has been flaring NON stop with no relief.
Ive had a migraine for 3 days now.
My sister is dying.
My VSG surgery got denied today.
I went to see a pain management Dr tonight, and he blew me off and prescribed PT 3 times a week. Each visit costs me $35 and then I have to find child care. I cant afford that and dont have that kind of time...
My mother is a ***** and told me to "just try to move past it all".
Im alone, lonely, in pain and tired. I cant do this anymore....
My husband has been MIA with work. Ive not seen him much in the last month- at all. Ive had NO break.
My daughter has been a holy terror.
My FMS has been flaring NON stop with no relief.
Ive had a migraine for 3 days now.
My sister is dying.
My VSG surgery got denied today.
I went to see a pain management Dr tonight, and he blew me off and prescribed PT 3 times a week. Each visit costs me $35 and then I have to find child care. I cant afford that and dont have that kind of time...
My mother is a ***** and told me to "just try to move past it all".
Im alone, lonely, in pain and tired. I cant do this anymore....
(deactivated member)
on 2/17/10 6:45 am - UT
on 2/17/10 6:45 am - UT
Topic: RE: I am in love!
Boy, you hit the nail on the head. How DO we learn how to peacefully co-exist with pain and exhaustion?
I have been struggling with this question for almost 15 years. Sometimes, I am really good at it. Sometimes, I fight and scream and kick against it.
Thanks for your support. You're a gem.
I have been struggling with this question for almost 15 years. Sometimes, I am really good at it. Sometimes, I fight and scream and kick against it.
Thanks for your support. You're a gem.
Topic: RE: I am in love!
Thanks for the heads up, we can always use more support and I know what you mean about whiny sites. We're all entitled to whine some but it does get old if that's all there is. We all know it hurts, now we have to learn how to peacefully co-exist with that pain.
(deactivated member)
on 2/16/10 10:22 am - UT
on 2/16/10 10:22 am - UT
Topic: I am in love!
My dear sisters-
I have found the best fibromyalgia web site.
It has a chat-room, on-line book club, heavenly distractions, as well as the usual educational stuff.
It has nothing to do with wls. But, the chat room is so kind, supportive, inspirational, funny. There simply aren't enough adjectives to describe it. I have been on tons of other sites and it was just whine, whine, whine--or foul language. Just everything that stressed me out more.
This site is great for newbies and oldies, a like.
The chat room is kinda slow sometimes. But, the quality of chatting is just so helpful.
The address is: fibrotalk.com
I hope you find this to be as helpful and uplifting as I have.
I have found the best fibromyalgia web site.
It has a chat-room, on-line book club, heavenly distractions, as well as the usual educational stuff.
It has nothing to do with wls. But, the chat room is so kind, supportive, inspirational, funny. There simply aren't enough adjectives to describe it. I have been on tons of other sites and it was just whine, whine, whine--or foul language. Just everything that stressed me out more.
This site is great for newbies and oldies, a like.
The chat room is kinda slow sometimes. But, the quality of chatting is just so helpful.
The address is: fibrotalk.com
I hope you find this to be as helpful and uplifting as I have.
(deactivated member)
on 2/16/10 10:14 am - UT
on 2/16/10 10:14 am - UT
Topic: RE: Rest Day
I have been reading your posts. We must have been separated at birth. I so totally agree with everything you say. However, you are far more wise.
thanks
thanks
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