Who did you tell?

some people I told as I started the journey, most I didn't tell until I KNEW it was going to happen for sure. Now that I'm post op, I will tell anyone that is within earshot.....but on my terms and in my time. I even told my GP he could give my name and number to any patient of his that he suggested WLS to..so they would have someone to ask questions. If you read my profile, somewhere in there is an entry where I put a copy of the letter I sent out via email to everyone. I think it's under a June date. I love my band and share my story so that anyone that is interested feels free to approach me. I would never suggest to anyone they should do it but if they ASK I am right there to give them the 'skinny' about banding! Dori 243/171.8/>>???

Hi Donna, I tell everyone. I told pretty much all my family and my close friends. Now when people ask, I generally tell them if I think they will be open minded. Babs in TX 334/180 -154 New goal: 170

Hi Donna, As you can tell, everyone is different. For me, I told my folks and my husband. I knew that some people would unknowingly say hurtful things, "oh, you are taking the easy way out",..."can't you lose by eating less and exercising". I just didn't want to deal with those comments. There might come a time when I tell the whole story, but for now, my line is "just eating less",...which is the truth. Also,...the psych at my pre-op visit told me something that I found helpful,...and I'm using her philosophy. "Once you tell people, you can't take it back". I wish you all the best as you continue on your journey! Vicki B.

I told my hubby of course, three close friends, my sister, my mom and mom in law, and my cousin. Basically anyone really close to me. There are a few people that I have told since the surgery. Usually when the topic comes up. I am not embarassed about the band, I just did not want too many opinions. I also did not want to hear 50 times a day "how much have you lost?" Some people I will tell when the time is right and some will probably never need to know. I do find myself telling some complete strangers about the lapband too. I agree with the philosophy that you can't untell someone. Tell those closest to you, the ones who would truly be hurt that you couldn't confide in them. Save the rest for when the time is right for you. Good luck, Kim

I told everyone including everyone I work with and I wish now that I hadnt because its been almost a year and I have only lost 25 pounds of the 75 I wanted to lose. Back then I thought with the band I would be down to goal by now. But I have been back on track with my diet for about a week now and am seeing some results so maybe I will lose some more. Even with the band I still have to diet.Allison

I have already told a lot of people that I am looking into it and I will be telling a LOT more once I get a date. I plan on having a blow out party (one last hurrah just in case ). But that is just me ....I am open about most things. Kathy

Well, I have told my three closest friends and one of the mom's at the school where my daughter's go. I have told my Mom and Dad. My older brother who is far away and just lost 70lbs on atkins. I have not told my younger brother and his wife because they are VERY rude, but they live next to my mother so I am sure I will tell them before I have it (which will be in the next month). I have asked my husband not to tell his friends because it is none of their business and they do not need to discuss me. I have not told anyone at Church, but I am involved in a small group Ministry and we meet weekly. The problem is that we eat before we begin every week. I will have to tell them something...just not sure what I am going to tell them all yet. LaraNicole

Donna, honey, I told EVERYONE!!! I am extremely proud of having the Lapband, and of the weight I've lost! I really didn't care what anyone else thought! Sharon 290/190/150

I've told darn near everyone who will listen. I've only had on negative response and that was from one of my online friends. I'm a little worried about the folks on my dad's side of the family. They make controvery about everything, but I don't see them much. They all live in Colorado and I don't make it over there often. Dad says they are all excited for me, but we'll see (maybe I just need more faith). I think the first thing is that I really don't care what anyone thinks. If what people think bothers you (and it does me, just not about this), you might keep it quiet, and just tell people one at a time as you feel you are ready. Sarah

i told everyone tooi was so happy to be approved and could not wait to start my new lifeno regrets ever - i love my bandand my new way of life lisa r 300/201/150