Update on my pending divorce.

Dear family, Thanks for the wonderful advice and I am gonna give you guys the update. DH has agreed to attend marriage counseling. I don't know what that is gonna be like but I guess we are gonna try one last time but this time with a counselor. He seems to want to let me go and I am willing to move on, even if I am too sensitive and have to shed a tear or two ( Im a cry baby), but have explained that we must have counseling so that we have no regrets and to make sure this is what we should be doing.  His parents think we are nuts and should run. He says the heck with his parents and this is for better or worst and we are at the worst. He wants to work things out. I am confused.Should I smoke a cigarette, oh, I forgot I don't smoke.  Also with all the drama, I lost another pound. Im down to 241

Try the counseling. You owe it to yourself and to him to try everything you can before giving up. This way if things don't work out both of you will know you gave it your best shot and can part ways with a clear conscience and possibly on friendly terms. On the other hand, you may be able to work out your problems and remember why you both loved each other enough to commit your love and lives to each other for life. I'm a hopless romantic, I really hope and pray you guys can work through your problems and in the end have a stronger marriage and commitment  to each other.  Follow your heart and pray and I'm sure everything will work out for the best. God Bless, Lyndee

I hope that this all turns out the best way possible for you.   You deserve not to settle and I hope that you don’t.   Among the big life changing decisions that I have made my divorce, having WLS, and getting my BS and MS degrees are all things that I wish I would have done sooner.  You are strong and smart and I know you will land on your feet. 

Well I'm happy that you all are going to counseling.  It's your life and your marriage you all have the final say so. Some time you have to hear other's opinions not their advice but make your own decisions.  And some time out side interference is what causes some of the problems that we experience.  Take everything to GOD in prayer there is no way you can go wrong.  I will be praying for you all Pam

You are making a good point to make sure you make the right decision by going to counseling....what if there are regrets...it's hard to go back.  I guess it can't get any worse right?  Only better from here and the counselor can pinpoint where your problems are with eachother.  Obviously you still care greatly about each other and want it to work out or it'd be done. Take care!  And keep up your workouts!  It'll really help to de-stress yourself! Malia

Sometimes you appreciate the better times after going through some of the worst.  I really do hope you come out of this for the better with or without your husband.   Perhaps the counselor will help you both see sides of yourselves you didn't know or hadn't seen for a while.   The two of you had something in common when you met and married, if you can find that again, I wish you the best.....

whether or not it helps your marriage, counseling can never hurt, you know? I went to counseling with my ex and he went for a few times but when he started hearing things he didn't like then he stopped attending. I continued until after the divorce was final and it did me a world of good. I think it's great that you are going. Best of luck and it will all work out as it should, just don't settle for behaviors you know you won't be happy with long term. You deserve only the best!

AMEN!!!!!  That is such good news to me and I will be praying it all works well.  Please don't be influenced by others, be influenced by God and what you know is right.  May God richly bless you and your husband. 

Honey, I don't know whether counseling will save your marriage, but certainly it will help both of you decide whether or not it's dead in the water.  That's good.    And if you both come to the decision that it is over, at least you can walk away knowing you did everything possible to save it.   And who knows?  Maybe this can turn things around for both of you?    Either way, my thoughts go with you.   Good luck, honey, Donna B