Need a mans advice!

I  will then go back to tuna town...here's my issue...My son is almost 13...I have caught him looking at porn sites in the past, we had a talk, he promised he wouldn't do it again...I put on the google parental controls, he bypassed them somehow. OK, I know this is normal (per say) His dad died when he was 8 so it's only me and him...how do I handle this? I do NOT want him watching the hardcore stuff that is on the net, but I also don't want to make him feel ashamed of having sexual feelings...what do I do? Take his computer away? I can't ignore it! HELP!

I don't let my boys have a computer in their room. i keep it in The family room, and they can only use it when I can sort of keep an eye on them. They make  a thumb print scanner for computer now that are pretty cheap, that way he can only use the box when your around.
I'm sure my boys do most of their porn viewing at the kids down the streets house.

HI
here my 2 cents:
 You will not be able to stop him from looking at porn. sorry but that is the truth, if it not computer it will be magazines etc. By removing his computer  you are basically  saying that you don't trust him.

Last thing you need for him to be emabrased and repress his sexuality. Obviously don't encourage it thou.
 Have a serious talk asto why the hard core is really  bad, and its exploiting people. Be very open, look compasionale anf human to him. Make sure that he feels accountable and trusted. I know its not easy with 13 year old male sigh... Its a team effort its him and you to work together on this.

That is the best i ve got....
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You could always try the smoking technique and make it so readily available to him with dvds, magazines, extra bottles of lotion, etc, so he gets sick of it.

Either that or rent a ***** and have a movie night just to make him feel uncomfortable abou****chin it.

Or you could always just put magazines, lotion, and tissues in his room and tell him that if he needs to rub it out just make sure to clean up after himself.

Mom and son, "porn night".  Awesome - he would love it!!! 

That would surely scare him straight! 

If you do not approve of him watching porn then I would take the computer away from him. He needs to realize it is your house your rules. I would sit him down and give him the talk about how unrealistic poro movies are and question why he wants to watch them. He will probably be beet red during all of this but you got to have the TALK with him again.

Yeah he may go down the street. I doubt if he can get to it at school and there is always the library but those are public places and he wants privacy.

He will be more embarrassed knowing you know and deep down more appreciative that you set limits instead of turning a blind eye.

And one more thing - it will help develop his imagination if you take his computer away.

 You're so OLD fritz! ;-) Don't think your youngin's never looked at porn!!

 You don't want your son to withdraw from you because he's embarrassed. Don't be the ultra "cool" mom who lets him watch porn and whatever he wants but DO be compassionate and realize he's just exploring his new and budding sexuality. Don't smother him about it but just lay down some ground rules that aren't too harsh but do let him know that you are the one paying for the internet and if he can't respect you then he may lose his computer privileges. But actually you won't be able to stop the porn interest...it's just what we do (I know, ****ty excuses). You can help him to understand his feelings, though. Just don't be "weird" about it! Good luck! 

She'll think that's nothing when she finds the spy cam in her bedroom and sees videos of herself doing the nasty posted on the Internet!    

  

    If only they had the Internet 30 years ago       ...   ::sigh::     

I don't have kids so I'm hardly the one to give advice.  But, I can attest to the problems I've had with porn.  I clearly remember the day when I was riding my bicycle when I was 12 years old and discovered a box of discarded porn in a nearby park.  It was pretty nasty stuff including S&M.  My dad hadn't had the "talk" with me.  That porn soon became my porn and I slowly hid it in my house and garage.  For as much as I feel that I'm a food addict, I think that I was more a slave to the porn.  I've just had evil thoughts for years.  Being a Roman Catholic, I'd go to Confession, tell the priest about my problems and just go back to the same behavior.

I'm lucky that my exposure never affected anyone other than myself.  I've been deeply in love with my wife since I met her and we'll be married 35 years this Oct. She was my one and only partner and we waited until marriage to be intimate.  And, this was back in the early 70s at the height of the sexual revolution.

I strongly suggest that you have a man that you trust discuss sex with your son.  I'd suggest a brother or other male relative.  Let them know how you feel before having them talk with him.