Thinking backing out

Had a problem with the fax machine friday, so couldn't send my payment authorization to the doc.  And now I've almost talked myself out of this.

I feel like I'm going crazy and I know I'm making my family nuts.  Everybody, friends and family, are super supportive and have offered to help with the kids and food and holiday stuff and everything.

Its just SO much money.  My lbl will be $7300.  Right before christmas. 

Its not all of our savings.  And it won't keep my kids from having a ridiculous amount of stuff to open christmas.  But its just so much to spend just on me. 

I never spend like that for myself.  I know I'd do it without blinking for the kids or the house, but it is seriously making me flip out.  Crying hysterics can't sleep kind of thing.

If I do this and then we DO need the money, I will NEVER forgive myself.

If I don't do this, am I going to feel icky about my body forever??  I'm 41 with three kids.  Real life, nobody is ever going to look at me anyway, so it doesn't really matter.

Just need some advice.  Suggestions. Prayers.

I just don't know what to do.

I stuggled as well before forking over about $8,000 for my LBL in September.  I drove myself crazy thinking about all of the other things I could have spent the money on.  A down payment on a house, a more reliable car, paying off student loans, etc...  

I came to the conclusion that I can and will save more money after doing this for myself, but I can't ever take back all of the time I spent obsessing and feeling negative about my body.  I'm only 6 weeks out now, but have already noticed a HUGE difference in my confidence level.  I'm talking a life-changing, feel like a whole new person kind of difference.  And until right now, I haven't thought at all about what else I could have spent the money on since the night before surgery.  Not even once.

Erin

 I'm even older but I'm worth it and so glad I did it!!!  :)  Good luck to you!!!!

At some point in life it's about you not anyone else, your doing it for the right reasons so don't second guess yourself to much, you'll be happy you did.

Bubba

Just do it!  Of course you'll need money for other things at some point.  Think abundantly.  You've never had to live in your car before and you probably won't in the future.  Visualize abundance in all manner.  You will have to look at yourself forever.

I'm 61 and spend 3x what you are to give myself the body that i've never had.  I was supposed to use it for granite counters in my kitchen and bathroom.  Those can wait.  I'll be far happier that I remodeled my body than my home (who's value keeps dropping anyhow)!

Do this for yourself.  No guilt, no making yourself feel bad.  We all get to have that one time that others might call selfish.  We've worked hard to get here.  Let's go the distance!

Ummm...yeah I did. When I was really little. Sucked then and do NOT want that for my munchkins.

Ok - if spending that money is going to put your family at risk of living in a car - then I'd rethink.  But from the sounds of what you wrote - that isn't not the case.

Look a bit more deeply at what you wrote.  Not just the "I'm not worth spending $7500 on" comments, but the one about "no one will look at me anyway".  I see your worry about money as more of a psychological issue with being accepting of the fact that you are WORTH that much.  

Of course you're worth that much, and then some.  Of COURSE people will look at you - there were probably great guys out there that would have looked twice at you FAT, let alone thin, and then thin without the extra skin.  

I might be worth you talking to someone about those issue hand-in-hand with your TT.

And remember - although it would be hard to live in your car, or not have everything your kids want under the tree (I went through similar when my daughter was young), it isn't the end of the world.  You survived and were most likely stronger because of it. 

Oy vey, who knew I would strike a chord with that one!  This is such a personal decision and I can see now that you have some basis for thinking that abundance might not always be there.  I was a single mom from day 1.  When Zach was little, there were times that I had to think, car tires or food.  In the end we had enough of everything. 

I think I spent a lot of time putting away for that rainy day.  I've kind of changed it up and I'm willing to hope that I'll always have everything I need and go for things that enhance my life.

I do get where you're coming from and this is a decision that only you can make.  Last week you wanted to do.  Don't scare yourself out of it.  I woke up this week wondering why the heck I think I need/want this.  Then I looked in the mirror and it was like, oh yeah, that's why.

Good luck in finding peace with this!

I agree with the others.  Fortunately, my insurance paid for my procedures.  But I still had to pay $3,000 out of pocket.  I know it doesn't sound like a lot, but to me it is.  My husband lost his job a year ago and we have been living off of my salary while he goes back to school to get a college degree. 

So basically we have been living from paycheck to paycheck and going through our savings.  It has been really tough raising children who were used to getting anything they wanted to now telling them no.  (They don't understand the changes, but that's a whole different story.)

I too struggled with should I spend this money on something that only benefits myself and not my family.  Am I being selfish to do this?  I normally don't buy myself things as I would rather spend my money on the kids.

Then I just decided I am going to do something for myself for once.  And I truly think it was the best decision to make.  I am only 3.5 weeks out, but I do feel so much better and have so much more confidence.  I can see this new confidence paying off in so many ways.  I think it will give me more confidence in my job and may even help to get me promoted.

Only you can make the decision.  I would pray on it and ask for some guidance.  I will include you in my prayers tonight!

Best of Luck!

I totally understand your feelings and I'm a single woman.

I have always wanted my arms done (well, since I lost my weight).

However, when I went for consults, I got sold into a tummy tuck and breast implants. I really sold myself on all three of these procedures. I was looking into how long it would take me to save, financing options, etc.

I made myself take a step back from all plastic surgery stuff for a few weeks. I really weighed what I WANTED vs wanted impulsively. I ended up just getting my arms done, paid cash and have no regrets and don't even think about that money. I got it done in July, and I still haven't re-cooped my savings acct. However, I have NO regrets.

So with all that said, I'd suggest taking a few weeks to take a step back and see if this is what you really want.

The god's honest trust is that you never, ever know when you'll be hit with a crisis...so really, worrying over something that's not here IS silly.

I do get that if you have come from extemem poverty, you are more apt to worry about going back to that place.

So all that to say, take a few weeks or months and weigh if you really want this.