Am I as fat as her? Am I as skinny as her????

DH won't play with me either but having great best friends helps. When we are out she plays with me and when she is on the internet and sees pictures of ppl close to me she send them to me. she is great. and then one day we were both wearing size 13s and she said oh crap now i get to say smaller to myself.

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Amy

Constantly. I don't typically ask the people I'm with though, and I should.

I do this all the time now too.

The question goes through my mind a lot too. I haven't had surgery yet and I hate to admit that I do ask myself if I look as big as others that I think are big. I hate looking at myself in pictures and in the mirror. I always think I look bigger than I should. It is a warped way of thinking but I just can't help myself.

I think with our bodies chaning so much on a weekly basis it is important to ask people about the bigger or smaller.  I still feel like I am 270.  I was also one who never felt as big as I was.

Oh, yeah...  I didn't realize how big I was before surgery and really struggle with my brain not knowing what size I am now.  Sometimes I look at my thighs and think that they are not much smaller than they were before.... even though at the same time I know that I can fit BOTH legs into ONE leg of my old jeans (and even though I carry around a picture to prove it, and have a picture of it on my fridge).  I often look at otehr people and wonder if I am bigger or smaller.  When I'm shopping, I try to look at myself and somene else at the same time in a mirror or store front window, but those opportunities dont; come up often enough.  As the weather warms up (and while we're in Florida in March), I need to get some pictures of me with other people so I can see my new size.

Lora

My sister and I have been comparing our size to other people we see for years...we call it a Flick my BIC (BIC standing for Body Image Check).  Neither one of us has any concept of what our bodies look like to other people...we just can't see it.  Sooooo...One of us just says "Flick my BIC" and looks in the direction of the person we want to be compared to.  Then the other analyzes the body image..."your arms are bigger, your ass is smaller, etc."  or my favorite answer "Are you freaking kidding me...not even close!"

It is a mystery to me.  Some days I look in the mirror and I think WOW, i've lost weight.  Then I am walking into a store or something and I catch a glimpse of myself in the door or mirror and I am like, holy crap am I fat!   Yes I am still fat but most days I still feel as fat as I was preop.  The only think that keeps me in perspective is to take a picture.  I don't know why there is a difference between a photograph and a reflection, but the photograph seems real.  I am becomming a "set the timer and run" pro.  I take pictures before I go out because I am not comfortable dressing yet.  I have lost 4 sizes but I still seem to dress as before, basic, black and big.  Sometimes the picture makes me go change, sometimes it doesn't!.  But I keep working on it. 

Heck I do that now and I haven't even had surgery yet, I'm constantly wondering if I'm as big as someone else or not as big as someone else, whatever.