I got called fat multiple times to my face last week...

I was thinking the same thing... Thank God it was not me because someone would have been in the hospital and/or in jail.

Sounds like they deserve each other. The worst thing about the situation is your wuss of an ex-husband allowing your kids to be subjected to that. Your kids are lucky YOU have them most of the time, and not him. Kids are always the ones who suffer the most in these situations.

Good luck,
Jenny

I'm not sure that I couldl have showed as much restraint as you did, so kudos to you for that.  She sounds jealous of you, why else would she continue on and on about you being fat?  She knows you're going to keep losing and obviously that bothers her.  I'd say at least put a call in to the attorney and at least document it.  I feel for her poor child to have that kind of trash for a mother, ick.

I would get over feeling like I had to put up with this type behavior for my kids sake. By this, I mean your ex has no business bringing this woman anywhere near your children. And if this is how she speaks about you when they are with your ex, they shouldn't be there either.
You have some hard decisions to make. I would go to my attorney, and get a restraining order to prevent her from being anywhere near YOU to begin with.
You don't have to get over feeling hurt by mean words. You have to know that she has issues, or she would be a woman about things and make sure your children aren't harmed by word or deed. You're entitled to your feelings, and forgiveness would not be in my vocabulary at this point.
I think I would try for supervised visits for your ex, until they get the message that your children are not to be traumatized by HER words "I would pop you in the face" , etc.
She will say things that will scar your sons for the rest of their lives with her comments. This amounts to child abuse, and your ex needs to get right.
I would go so far as to have a voice activated recorder, ( they're cheap) and carry it when I think she may come around. I am sure this won't be her last time to approach you, and at some point you will be forced to deal with it. That's why I think you should be proactive, and try to get a jump on the situation before it gets out of hand.
Best wishes on this , and I hope you can straighten this out before it gets bad.

I feel so bad for you to have to go through that and my motivation for ignorance is to show a different side of me... Let that push you to work harder towards goal (You are doing great by the way)... She is a ***** and I would have made sure she knew it.

From hearing your story she is living your life right now.  And what it sounds like it wasn't a great life.  If he cheated on you he will do the same thing to her.  I give you props for being the better woman.  She better watch out because you are going to be one hot skinny momma really soon and then what is she going to say to you.  "You Skinny *****"  I would take that as a complement and say "Well thank you.  I have been working really hard at it"

it's simple she's trying to make you feel inferior because she's afraid he'll cheat with you. she's knows he's s cheater..

"Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me..." is the biggest lie out there!  Words hurt, sometimes worse than a good punch in the nose.  Don't forget how far you have come.  As WLS folks we dont get to see our own weight loss and progress like others so it is easy to forget.  Also there is that "little fat girl" inside who believes everything she hears.  You arent that little fat girl anymore!  You are a strong woman who has more self control than these other 2 boneheads...lol!

zippy

Thanks everyone...I think that is the hard part...I really wanted to punch her in the face (although since I have never hit anyone in my life I am not sure how well that would have worked out for me).  But alas, my children were there so I was trying to be the "bigger" haha person.

My ex told me it was MY fault because if I had just shook her hand she wouldn't have gone off like that.  WHAT???!!!

Unfortunately, I got a call from my son's preschool earlier.  He called one of the after preschool assitants a "fat b*tch" today.  (She is this toothpick skinny college girl, so I'm sure he doesn't know what it really means...Lord knows I would never use the f word...now if he had said d@mmit that might have been me...that one slips out occasionally)...nice what he is picking up from his classy stepmother.

Again, I think that is necessary documentation that this woman should NOT be around your kids, unsupervised.

I hope you call your attorney.

Two words--anger management-before I'd want her ANYWHERE near my children.

--Danelle