Parent or spouse able to stay the night at hospital?

Thanks everyone!  I'll check with the hospital tomorrow.  Its not the distance so much that is the issue.  I'm sure she'd go home over staying in a hotel.  Its just my mom is a HUGE worrier, and although she is being super supportive of my decision to have this surgery, she is worried.  I'm her only child, and she just really wants to be at my side, whether I am coherent or not.  If she is worried about something she doesn't sleep at all.  When my step dad was in the hospital after his stroke and they told her she couldn't stay in his room, the first night she just sat in the hospital waiting room until morning.  Future nights I finally talked her into going home, but she still hardly slept.  I know my hospital usually has private rooms for WLS patients unless they are unusually busy, so I'll just check with them!

Nothing odd about your mom.  I am the oldest of 5,, but the only one who lives near her. (The rest (thankfully) live 500+ miles away). She sometimes treats me like I am her only child.


She is extra worry some after the ordeal with my father that spanned 13 months (he had a ruptured brain aneurysm).  He passed August 2008  I think it's only recently that my mom actually started sleeping at night.  Now she has to worry about me.

She'll likely go home (it's not too far) since her mother will be there with my son  & the dogs

I can totally see the point if the rooms are semi-private And I can very much understand the above poster who's roommate's mom was a heavy smoker.

My family was allowed to stay in my room, I sent them home.   I found it hard to have them in the room.  As great as it is for the support, I was just in this mindset where I wanted to heal.

This was me too. I wanted to be by my self so I could rest peacefully and not worry about others sleeping or not sleeping. Not only that I had so much gas, I didnt want others in the room as I was relieving myself, LOL

This was a question I made sure to ask of my doctor and the hospital - as well as if there was some kind of cot they could sleep on. When my mother had the surgery a couple of years ago (different hospital from me), I was able to stay the night, but I had to sleep on the floor! A sleeping bag only does so much on a cold hospital floor! But, my mother was glad I was there, as the nurses didn't always remember to come get her up to walk.

If your hospital will not allow your parents to stay in your room overnight, you might see if they have arrangements with any nearby hotels for a discount rate. Some hospitals make those arrangements for family members who travel a long way.

Thanks.  I did talk to someone from the hospital today.  They said that they try their best to get all of their WLS patients in private rooms and are making an extra note that that is my preference.  They seem really helpful and said there is a reclining chair, or they can bring in a cot.  The only problem is if I were to have a shared room.  They said there is a family lounge my mom could stay in if that were the case.  I told my mom today that she could go home if that were the case, but she has already made up her mind that she will be staying at the hospital...my room or the lounge!  haha  I know I won't be coherent, but my mom won't be a distraction.  I know she just wants to be near me while I'm so vulnerable.  I think its actually more for her than for me.  She's not wanting to be there for my great conversation that night.  Deep down, I'll be at ease knowing she is there too. 

ask at the hospital.  call them.

I stayed at the hospital with my husband the night he had his surgery... I even was told to sleep in the extra bed and the nurse brought me a blanket....