Irritated!!!

What is wrong with me!! I have always been an opinionated woman; however, I have been able to keep things to myself to keep the peace. In the last month, I have been saying whatever I think to my boss, my kids, and my husband! I usually know how to hold somethings in or say them in a way that gets my point across without being too hurtful. Lately, it just comes out and it is what it is. Do they have a pill to control this? Will it go away? I like the old me. I don't want to walk around being queen "B". HELP!

Irritability is one of the early signs of depression.  I know that the surgery and subsequent hormone swings bring havoc, you might want to talk to your doctor.  Usually an anti-depressant will help.

 I work with alot of clients on anger management. Here are some things I've found that helped. : Identify your triggers - are there specific things that people say that get to you? Specific people that always get to you?
Prep yourself or avoid the triggers.
Take a deep breath before you say ANYTHING.
Count to 10 before saying an opinion.
Remember to take a time-out when you know you're gonna say something you'd regret. And above all, remember that you had life changing surgery so cut yourself some slack!!

Thank you both. I go to see my Dr. next week and I was going to bring this up. I don't feel anger when this happens. It's more like, I'm telling you that you are getting on my nerves or what you are doing that is irritating me. Usually, I can look at these people and say this to myself and smile at them. It comes out before I know it. I can't seem to stop it! Now that I know this, I will do my best to THINK before I SPEAK as you suggested. This is NUTS! Thanks for your support.

I went through something like this.  It was around my 2nd month out.  I was in the midst of mourning food.  I was also someone who ate a lot of my emotions like anger and annoyance.  And I am menopausal, switched from time release to regular anti-depressants, and had all the extra estrogen releasing because of the weight loss.  Hello Angry Woman!  *edit...just saw your post that you are not angry.  I was also in sort of a high state of annoyance.  So glad you are seeing your doc next week. 

I told my boss that she "didn't want peoples opinions because she could not control them."  Oh yea.  Lucky I still have a job.  I would say anything.  I've always been outspoken but never just...mean.  At least not all the time. 

It was a couple of steps for me.  I saw the doctor and we made some tweaks to my meds.  And I starting seeing my therapist again who helped me to understand why I was such a B to the world. 

Do make sure it's not depression.  That can get out of hand if you don't get help early out. 

Take care!  You are so not alone on this one. 

You are funny! I am almost 3 months along and it started around 2 months. I am also having problems with a female condition and having a hysterectomy next month. I don't feel angry, but hey, I'm not me right now so who knows. I just said something to my husband who I have been with for 19+ years that he was the reason that I didn't like talking to people because he was always telling me what I said wrong. The funny thing is that he has been doing this through our entire relationship and I usually ignore him. He was so mad at me. The kids (10 & 12) looked at me crazy. I said, do I seem more irritable? That opened up the flood. They told me how I am more irritable to everyone and how I can't keep my feelings to myself like I used to. The more I thought about what they said, the more I thought about what I've said to my boss lately, like "do you know exactly what I do everyday?" She looked at me like I was crazy. I didn't realize that I said anything out of character until now. I'm definitely going to talk to someone. I don't feel depressed, stressed maybe, but not depressed. Oh yea, I was just diagnosed with a ulcer last Thursday. This surgery has me really going NUTS, or was I nuts already? Who knows anymore. Thanks for your support. I need all that I can get.

So often as obese people we go overboard keeping our emotions inside and always trying to make everyone happy--except ourselves.  Once we start to lose weight, we find a new confidence in ourselves and we often decide to no longer "keep the peace" and finally tell people how we feel.  Many relationships crumble due to this change in equilibrium. 

Definitely talk to your doctor and maybe see a counselor that can help you "rein in" your new found voice.  You should be able to communicate your feelings, you just may need to learn to do it with more tact and finesse. 

Thank you, I will. I didn't do this to turn around and hurt people.