New to the Board

Hi my name is Bobbie I am new to the board I am planning for surgery in September 2011. I have tried for 2 years to have the surgery and my insurance has always been an issue. I am very nerves about the surgery and my family has mixed feelings. I have some that say they support me but down play WLS saying its the easy way out. I wasn't always this size (309 currently), after my first child I was a size 6. When I married I was a 10..Second baby WTH size 20 life was never the same. Divorce followed weight yo yo'd back and forth. I got down to a 16 and remarried and now Im in a 24..UGH I can't breath and I am so depressed. I avoid seeing classmates because I feel so ashamed of my weight and I hate being asked if I am preggers..Heck no Im Chunky as my daughter says. I joke about it but I think every "big" person does but deep down I hurt.

I would greatly appreciate any encouraging words or anythings that will help me.

Welcome and good luck with your surgery

i can understand all those feelings and more

For me it was the best thing i ever did, it has prolong my life for sure

Those that say it's an easy way out have never struggled with weight issues as we have, i would not pay them any mind at all

Thanks so much

I can remember being around 12 or 13 and lying in bed praying to wake up thin myself. I just wanted to look "normal" like my friends. But it never happened..lol Now here I am in my thirties and its not about wanting to look "normal" but I want to feel normal and be able to breath when I lay down.

As for the "easy way out".. Why do people feel they always have to put their opinion out there.. If the ppl who think it is the easy way then they should read these boards and they would see there is nothing easy about this. Good luck with your surgery!

Thanks you so much

Welcome. You've landed in the right place. I think ALL of us understand where you're coming from because even though some of us have had the surgery and lost weight, we still have those memories.

You're gonna love it here. It's the best ! =)

Welcome to the board you are definitely in the right place. This board has a wealth of information and expereince.   

Thanks everyone

 Hello! My name is Laura and I am new to the board too. My surgeon said I should have surgery before the end of summer. I am still jumping thru the insurance paperwork hoops, but I think I am almost approved. I should be having my medical tests starting next week. I am nervous and cvery excited and have not told anyone in my family yet other than my husband because they tend to be negative.I am almost exactly twice my goal weight right now and have serious health problems. I was thrilled to find such a good supportive web site to help. I am a vegetarian and can use all the help and tips I can get . Thanks!

Hi Laura, best of luck....I pray your family comes around to understanding what your doing and why.