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 I'm sorry I got to this post late but hopefully everyone echoing the same sentiment has helped you find some clarity and realization that you deserve better. The below image may not show up very well but it's called the Power and Control Wheel. Domestic Violence is not alway****ting. Physical abuse aims to the same ends - to control. He's controlling you in many other, insidious ways and excessive control has no place in a healty marriage. I hope he responds well to the suggestion of treatment - if not, get out and get your own!

If I were you I would try to get out of this sooner than later. Run, don't walk. What he does is an abuse, and that is just the beginning.

I am sorry for you. I had been in a controlling relationship and it was very hard to get away from him. It was pure hell for me. Hope you have your family and friends to support you.

 Look, I know exactly how you feel. It has nothing to do with the surgery btw, it was the marriage. My ex didn't start being an ass until after I gave birth to our twins. Its when they know they have you they start. It only gets worse and I'm sorry but counseling doesn't help. They end up going and using what they learned there saying you do all these things. Leave. It only gets worse and I didn't see it as abuse at first either because sometimes they are still the person they used to be and he wasn't hitting me and always apologized. Everyone else saw it that way but I was blind. Finally I left, and I am happy again, people tell me I'm the old care free me because I'm not always stressed anymore. Please don't put yourself through this too long, my only regret was not leaving sooner. They are always know when your gonna go and act the sweetest and would do anything to get you bak, don't fall for it!!!!!! Good luck sweetie!

To agree with everyone else, this is definitely abuse... and you can't change him.  The only way this will EVER get better is if he changes himself, and history has shown that isn't likely to happen.

You can try to talk to him and get him to agree to go to counseling with you, or you can just walk NOW.  These situations quite often morph into physically violent situations.

There are a couple websites I've been following for a couple years while I deal with my own abusive situation.  I haven't quite gotten to the point of walking yet, but I keep educating myself.  I believe the time will come when I will leave.

Please take some time to read through these blogs and posts by 'Kellie Jo Holly'... reading some of her experiences might seem a bit creepy to you as they might mirror some of your own.

I wish nothing but the best for you... please take care of yourself and be safe.

--->  http://verbalabusejournals.com/verbal-abuse-marriage/
--->  http://www.healthyplace.com/blogs/verbalabuseinrelationships/


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