Have you become a divorce statistic--please share...
I realize this is a personal question, but I'd love to hear from folks who have been down the road. I'm not asking for details of your problems (unless you care to share)--more curious just how big a toll this surgery tends to take on relationships and figured no better place to ask than here.
As always, I so appreciate your feedback.
Denise
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RNY 2/3/09, LBL/BL w/Augmentation 9/16/11
Start weight: 335 Current weight: 185 Goal weight: Whatever the hell I can maintain without driving myself insane!
*6.5 lost preop
But I should say that I know two couples who underwent WLS (both husband and wife). One is divorced now and one is en route.
RNY Gastric Bypass 1-8-08 350/327/200 (HW/SW/CW). I spend most of my time playing with my food over at Bariatric Foodie - check me out!
If you step back and look at relationships, it really does boggle the mind that men and women were put together in the first place. What kind of cruel joke was it to take two people that are so inherently different and expect them to coexist in some sort of reasonably happy manner UNTIL DEATH DO THEM PART? My friend jokes that there ought to be an island for men and they only get to come over to procreate and then back to the island they go with all the beer, sports, strippers, and porn they can handle. I bet there would be a waiting list for men wanting to jump on that deal should it become reality!
Sorry about your friends. It is a scary prospect to face down the dissolution of a marriage.
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RNY 2/3/09, LBL/BL w/Augmentation 9/16/11
Start weight: 335 Current weight: 185 Goal weight: Whatever the hell I can maintain without driving myself insane!
*6.5 lost preop
I personally think the male species was made to NOT exist in monogamous relationships and I think when humans put that societal value on "one man, one woman" something went a little bit awry.
I'm not saying men/women are incapable of having monogamous relationships, I am just saying nature doesn't always make it easy to do so.
I personally don't have much desire to be married ever. I don't see the point. And call me a radical but I could totally be a sister wife! My bond/relationship with my BDOBM (baby daddy's other baby mama) is way stronger than my bond with him. Were we a polygamous culture, maybe my kids would not be from a broken home.
But I digress. I personally am single for life (at least from my view now). No intentions to tie the knot, jump the broom or any of the rest of it. You can't tie me down!!!
RNY Gastric Bypass 1-8-08 350/327/200 (HW/SW/CW). I spend most of my time playing with my food over at Bariatric Foodie - check me out!
I take umbrage at the insinuation that all men not only partake of the aforementioned activities, but make them the center of their universe to the exclusion of all other things (thereby necessitating an island refuge). I'm a man. A big, burly, hairy, tough man, who loathes beer, sports, strippers, and porn. I much prefer a glass of Bordeaux, a good book/movie, an intelligent conversation, and the prolific sexual advances of my wife. Not all men are created equal. :)
HW: 418 SW: 386 CW: 225 GW: 210 
Thank you for clearing that up, Jim!
RNY Gastric Bypass 1-8-08 350/327/200 (HW/SW/CW). I spend most of my time playing with my food over at Bariatric Foodie - check me out!
I guess it is like all generalizations....certain groups are known for certain things.....like all the lawyer jokes.....and the coonass jokes.....I'm sure you took it in stride!
Have a great day!
