Have you become a divorce statistic--please share...
Your wife is a lucky gal...
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RNY 2/3/09, LBL/BL w/Augmentation 9/16/11
Start weight: 335 Current weight: 185 Goal weight: Whatever the hell I can maintain without driving myself insane!
*6.5 lost preop
I hate beer, but love a good Tequlia.
I Lived in Vegas for YEARS! and never stepped foot in a strip club.
As for porn, why watch it go out and live it!
I think if you have any issues in your relationship entering this process, the changes in post op life, appearance and self esteem will only enhance the problems. Some people are able to work through things and some aren't, somethings may be worth working through others aren't.
I know from my stand point this surgery has strenghtened my relationship with my wife. I know for her that it has caused some issues but these are all based on "What if" Type BS and we have talked through things, and now we are waiting for the newest addition to our family due next month!
First 5K 9/27/20 46:32 - 11 weeks post op (PR 28:55 8/15/11)
First 10K 7/04/2011 1:03 First 15K 9/18/2011 1:37
First Half Marathon 10/02/2011 2:27:44 (PR 2:24:35)
First Half Ironman 9/30/12 7:32:04
My wife has speculated about the "what if" type BS and I've only lost 52lbs. so far, so I see a few more reassuring conversations in my future. But like you, I know that WLS will have a more strengthening effect on my already strong marriage. Plus, she's my second wife, so I made sure to pick a good one. LOL
HW: 418 SW: 386 CW: 225 GW: 210 
Best to you, your wife, and baby!
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RNY 2/3/09, LBL/BL w/Augmentation 9/16/11
Start weight: 335 Current weight: 185 Goal weight: Whatever the hell I can maintain without driving myself insane!
*6.5 lost preop
Tammy 
Luck 'o the Irish
HW399/SW362/CW219/GW130
*37 lbs were lost pre-op
Sorry your ex did that to you. I've wondered if things like porn and video games affect a nerve center in their brains or something that make it so irresistable. I do believe they truly become addicted, yet there is no physical component to the addiction, so it is kind of hard to relate to.
Best to you!
Check out my blog--menumealplanning.com. Tales of making meal planning managable, family fodder, and everything else under the sun.
RNY 2/3/09, LBL/BL w/Augmentation 9/16/11
Start weight: 335 Current weight: 185 Goal weight: Whatever the hell I can maintain without driving myself insane!
*6.5 lost preop
I do believe my self-confidence and self-esteem being 100% better lead in part to my recent divorce. I was married to an alcoholic (10 years alcohol free) and I had had enough of it, so that also was a major contributor to the divorce.
I would also say that communication was not there enough. I knew that, and tried to talk about feelings/emotions/etc. but couldn't get him to communicate. Therapy I did, he wouldn't he didn't need it *sigh*.
It was very tough initially and I still have some days that I struggle with being divorced BUT I also have MANY, MANY days that are happier.
In hindsight, it should have happened years ago. I didn't want to be a WLS statistic and having come from a divorced family I felt I had to give extra to try to keep it together for my children. What I'm finding is my children are also much happier and more respectful now then when we were together.
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Proximal RNY Lap - 02/21/05
9 years committed ~ 100% EWL and Maintaining
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