I hate to post this

 I too was considered a "lightweight" at the time I had surgery, with just over 100 lbs. to lose. And I do remember struggling with my decision  truthfully until about 3 months after surgery. I had a stricture which did not allow me to get in all my fluids or protein for way too long, and I became weak, depressed and wondering what the hell I had done to myself. When asked if I would do it again, my response at the time was "not no, but HELL NO!" That was then.

I got the stricture fixed and I followed the program and when I began to feel human again, I was soooo thankful for the tool I had chosen to help me live a better life. And you will be too. It does get better, sooo much better.

Something that really, really helped me along with way (and still does to this day), is that I did not focus on the scale. I never weighed myself at home post-op. I let my surgeon weigh me at my post-ops visits, and I still do not own a scale. My clothes, my energy level and my ability to do things I could not do before are proof enough for me that it is all worth it.

Sorry to hear that you are struggling. Food is not your friend anymore and in a way you are severing ties with an unhealthy relationship. I have solicited the help of a therapist and a WLS support group to help me get over this common bump in the road. Now I feel like I have a shot at long term success. Good luck to you!

im not going to tell you youre a light weight or that your expectations are unrealistic because i know the way youre feeling in your head right now those things wont help. last night i was in tears because i missed food. i was having a bad day, fighting with my husband & all i wanted was some candy bars or some cookies. thats how i dealt with bad days before & now i cant do that. so what am i left with? tears. we have to find a coping mechanism for bad days like these. i know i need to get back into therapy, i need to find healthier ways of dealing with my emotions. anyways, i just wanted to let you know that i understand. i wish i could offer something better than understanding, but thats all i got right now! *hugs* & i hope today looks a little better for you.

 Please remember that each person is different and will lose differently. Comparing yourself to others can be very harmful. Stall's happen.

I'm not thinking that it's the stall, or the "slower" weight lose that is making you question your decission. I'm thinking there is an underlying problem that is causing some depression/anxiety. Do you have a therapist you can talk to? It may help. Do you have any stressors going on right now? If so, it make sense. Because in the past, you may have coped with food and now you can't. It may help to try to find some other coping skills. 

Don't beat yourself up, and please don't be offended by my post. I am just offering my 2 cents, for what its worth. 

I see a therapist for PTSD and depression Having a therapist while I have been going through this weightlose journey has been so helpful. I obviously used food at times to cope with my PTSD and depression. Slowly I have learned other coping skills, and I have also learned that its okay to talk about the issues that I have with food now and my body image. 

I wish you the best of luck and I hope that you start to feel better soon. Hang in there and take gentle care of yourself. 

Hi there:)I started out at 233 and i am 3 months post-op as well,i have lost 41 lbs and i am also at a stall:(This is the second week of my stall as well.I think this is right where we should be with weight loss Ilook at it this way im 3 months out and have lost over half of what i need too,and i went from a size 18 to a 12!Just didnt want you to feel alone we are in the same boat and yes the stalls are sooo frustrating but it will pass honey hang in there!

I am sorry it has been rough for you.  I am still pre op and will not pretend to know what you are going through.   But i am glad that you posted it to the board.  all the ladies above had great sugestions and thoughts.  Heep your head up, and don't be so hard on your self.  You are doing GREAT! ((HUGS))

You were a lightweight and cannot compare yourself to others who need to lose a lot more. By the six month mark, it is about average to lose 50% of your excess weight. Obviously you are going to smash that goal. Keep your head up!!

And if you want to see what OH says an average loss for someone your size would be, click HERE

The only thing I can tell you is to hang in there. I think we all go through stages where we miss food. I CAN say that therapy and some books really helped me get past the "head" hunger pretty well. It was something that I knew that I needed to work on before my surgery. The best book I found was "Women, Food, and God". Don't be turned off by the title if you aren't religious...it's a great book. As Nik said in her blog.." You know how a book is telling you the truth? When, in the first 20 pages you put it down 20 times, curse it out and then start crying." It's true, but it helps a lot.

Good luck! Hang in there!

You'll be able to eat normally eventually, don't despair. You have to be strong through this process. I'm happy that I can barely eat because I am losing weigtht, but fully know that this won't be forever so I am trying to do the best I can to lose the most weightnow. Maybe focus on the weight loss instead of anything else. Stalls happen ALL THE TIME!! Be ready for more and hang in there. Hugs.

the tears sound like you have some pent up anxiety due to food grief,,,there could be alot of things comming into play here ,,whats going on at home,,what time of the month it is,,(cause sometimes this surgery can set your hormones crazy),,not to mention there could be some post op depression due to all these and the missing of the way it used to be,,i would call my doctors office and have them refer you to someone you can talk to about this,,

i so much love reading your posts and reply's ,,so please don't stop offering your advice to us,, we know that every post you have post comes from your heart,and we all really need that kind of care right now,,:)