I think I will refrain from asking anymore ?'s on here.

 No one is acting like they know you. Everyone was just trying to be supportive, understanding, and helpful.

That post was in response to Hala's thought that (I guess she removed) about me PMSing or having hormone issues. LOL...I'm sorry for the confusion! & I didn't mean to cut off the protien powder question. I hope you get the answer you need!

I hate to break it to you, but we ALL have hormone issues after surgery.  I've read the post in question and I don't see where they were being rude.  Maybe you're just being sensitive.  If you want to run off because your feelings got hurt rather than get the information handed out when you asked, then run.  Sorry if this is brutal, but frankly you sound like someone that needs to take a chill pill.

(I'm probably one of the "mean girls" she is *****ing about, but after passing a kidney stone today, I just don't give a ^%$# what anyone else thinks, so I am glad you posted a sensible response that was what I wanted to say but was more polite than I would have been today).

Lora

Nope she didn't remove it--its still there we can all see it.  Which means she has likely used her block button effectively.  Hala is actually a really helpful member of this board and very knowledgable.   I honestly don't typically respond to drama, but I don't like seeing newbies shoot themself in the foot and blocking the only people that may actually help them. 

I'm sorry you think people are mean.... Im sure they don't mean to be, it's just a personality conflict.

Like some people are just more straightfoward (dominant) than others (sensitive) so things just get taken the wrong way.

I hope this doesn't come across as a mean answer but here's the deal.

You could stop asking questions. That's true. But that's not going to hurt any of us or make any of us lose sleep. It will, however, prevent you from accessing the wealth of knowledge available from this board.

We're sort of like a family here. Or at least I like to think so. Do you sometimes get annoyed when your family asks a lot of questions? I know sometimes I do. It's normal and natural. Doesn't make it right but it is what it is.

Having said that, I go back to the fact that you have to look out for you. I know for me, nobody is going to stand in the way of my betterment. I brush off the haters and get the information I need to do what I have to do. Don't let a few harsh people have that level of power over you to silence you. Only you have the power to do that and giving it away is not a good sign of things to come in this process.

When you have surgery you are going to get your fair share of negative feedback. Snarky co-workers, dysfunctional family and people who are just plain ******** You could look at this environment as a way to fortify yourself against the naysayers. You will be called to defend your choices many times in this process. If you cut yourself off from everyone that does, there won't be many people left in your corner. You sort of have to learn to take what you can and leave the negative.

Either way, it's your process. You handle it the way you think is right for you.

Again, I wasn't only talking about my own posts. In general I have seen a handfull of people on here who have rude answers sometimes. I never said to sugar coat things, but people (like me) who just made a life altering change, might have questions sometimes that no matter how big or small of an issue, need to be answered. And you kinda want to hear it from someone who has maybe gone throgh it. Everyone on here should expect that, and I'm sure the vets went through the same thing. I value the info I recieve on here, however, the few in mention, occassionally have rude responses. (NOT JUST TO ME). I never said that, not everyone has hormonal changes after surgery. I understand fully that everyone does. My point was that, you do not know me & should not speculate that my posts have relations with my hormonal issues. Nothing that I have said has been rude. I'm simply stating facts as those say they are. Everyone assumed that I was solely talking about the "surgery after RNY" post. I was not. Assume makes an *** out of you & me. Remember that. After people started making comments of how I must not have basic knowledge of the human anatomy, I will admit I was rubbed the wrong way. However, this exact post was not supposed to even go this far. So it goes to show you exactly what I am talking about. I am not even angry, nor irritated, I simply stated that I think this place was meant to be a friendly environment where people can get answers to the questions that they need, I don't think there is any harm in what I said. I take enough pills, however so a "chill pill" wouldn't be an ideal addition! Thanks though ;o)

See, that's the thing that confuses me. You're talking about discarding a WHOLE community for a small group of people in a small number of posts. I know when I respond to a post (no matter how I feel about the content) I try to respect the knowledge and dignity of the person to whom I respond.

But you also have to remember that this is an open forum and you're going to get what you're going to get. Not just here but everywhere you go.

But to throw the baby out with the bath water, to me, doesn't seem fair. I know I spend a TREMENDOUS amount of time on here trying to encourage people to love and take care of themselves. Others do too. Your post sort of discounts those efforts on behalf of a few people. I think the greater portion of this board is good intentioned and I'd hate you to miss out on all there is to offer here.

Not that I'm campaigning for you to stay or go. It's just that from what I'm reading you sort of have a one-sided opinion of the board. Can you agree, at least that there are SOME people here who give constructive advice and try to do so respectfully?

I might also add you can block disrespectful folks and never have to see their posts again. I don't do it personally. My grandfather always taught me there is more value in the words of your adversaries than in your allies. There is a bite of truth to negative feedback that you don't get from people who care about you. Frankly, I want a balanced view of my life and situations. Sometimes it's a tough pill to swallow but it makes me better. And I deserve to be better so I take the bitter pill.

At any rate, like I said, your decision. I respect whatever you decide.

But you also have to remember that this is an open forum and you're going to get what you're going to get. Not just here but everywhere you go.

LOL, I read this sentence and thought of a saying my 5 year old daughter tells everyone.

"You get what you get, and you don't throw a fit!"