relationship question

Here's a good article:

http://www.drsharma.ca/obesity-why-bariatric-surgery-can-fail-part-3.html

I had a very good relationship before surgery, and I still have a good relationship, but even with a good relationship there have been challenges. WLS changes you - often for the better, sometimes for the worse, and your partner has to be prepared to accept those changes and see them through with you. If they weren't there before, they won't be there after, for sure.

I did read (sorry, can't remember where) that there is a greater fail rate in relationships posy-WLS where both partners were overweight when they came together and only one gets surgery.

I totally see why you are frustrated, I would be too.   However, in thinking about it..I agree with the previous poster.  I'm guessing that perhaps your husband is feeling insecure (that isn't what the previous person said...but I'm getting there).  Maybe he is struggling with all of the attention you are getting, feeling jealous of it..nervous etc... and he may not even realize it.  As a result, he is pulling away.  Try asking what he would like to do, cooking your own meal and the meal for everyone else sometimes (asking what they want) and so on. Maybe that would help?  He may just need some reassurance.  All the attention you are getting right now may be making him feel like everything is about you and he may need some attention himself.  Just some thoughts??

I agree with what Kelly, Debs and the others said.  I think too sometimes people who are obese/overweight accept tings in their life because they don't think they can do better.  Once WLS they start to believe they deserve more.

Its just so much of a daily struggle.

To respond he wants to sit on the couch watch tv play on the computer and eat whatever he wants and not gain a pound. He is 6 foot 4 and built. Spent his whole life giving to the military. He has stayed in shape even after his retirement. He likes to fish I have offered to go with. but he doesnt want me with him.

Its like we have nothing to do together. Maybe go to a bar. I cant drink or smoke. But I can do karaoke. Other than tha****ch him drink.

I am finding a new me. I am seeing what I so crave in life. I am seeing what I truely want. And right now its to be healthy. To love myself again. And become the woman I know I am under all this excess baggage.

I dont know what else to say. Its not that I dont try. Its that I dont have the heart to try anymore.