First cupcake since surgery--did not dump--and that scares me a little!
On September 17, 2011 at 6:12 AM Pacific Time, Cleopatra_Nik wrote:
Oh my...two cupcakes!I wouldn't necessarily encourage the connection between eating cupcakes and chips with being down on the scale. Even though it's funny how that happens, for some of us it simply doesn't. I was vigilant up until about 18 months post op. The minute I loosened up a bit, the scale did not go down, it went up DESPITE the fact that I was still working out like a maniac.
But you're right. Life happens. But one thing dinosaurs like me need to realize is that there are psychological stages to this thing. The "I'm never going to eat the evil food again EVAH!" stage is one we need to go through in order to get to the other good stuff that awaits us. I went through it, you went through it and they will too.
Someone oughta write a book.
I think the scale thing for me, is that I need more calories (not from cupcakes) but I'm fighting with myself over it. I always seem to be down some on Satudays after not being a calorie Nazi on Friday nights (we have church small group, and everyone brings food. I taste almost everything). Probably proof that we need to change it up on occassion and not get suck to the same number day in day out. Which is hard for creatures of habit and organization like me. lol
Only 30-40% of RNY patients dump and some of them dump on sugar and some on fat, some on both. I do sometimes dump on sugar--but wouldn't have dumped if I ate a cupcake over a long period of time--that's why we are told NOT to graze because we can tolerate most anything if we eat is slowly enough.
All that being said I do eat sweets--I have gone to counseling to work on having a healthy relationship with food, have food NOT call my name, and be able to eat anything in moderation. Some days I can do the above, some days I can't but I need to face these things every day for the rest of my life. I was very careful to stay away from sweets, chips et****il I got below goal and then this became about how to make this work for the rest of my life. I am still loosing slowly but that is not my focus my focus now is being healthy and living my life!
All that being said I do eat sweets--I have gone to counseling to work on having a healthy relationship with food, have food NOT call my name, and be able to eat anything in moderation. Some days I can do the above, some days I can't but I need to face these things every day for the rest of my life. I was very careful to stay away from sweets, chips et****il I got below goal and then this became about how to make this work for the rest of my life. I am still loosing slowly but that is not my focus my focus now is being healthy and living my life!
HW 278 SW 259 GW 170 CW 142 Ht 5ft 6
I really don't think anyone is being mean--we all have our observations. If I didn'tt want to hear anything, I wouldn't post and ask for them!!
BTW, went to my granddaughter's party today. Daughter made cupcakes--and I did not eat Amy! I didn't care or want any!! Had a little chicken gumbo, but brought my shake and daughter had protein bars for me so I was good to go! I do agree, this is a lifestyle not a diet. some of us will feel that certain foods are never worth it--others will find a way to put them in with certain modifications/limitations. and no one is wrong!! It is what we can live me!! I admire those that modify as well as those who abstain--because they are following what is right for them!!And what is right for each of us is all we can ever expect to achieve, right?!
BTW, went to my granddaughter's party today. Daughter made cupcakes--and I did not eat Amy! I didn't care or want any!! Had a little chicken gumbo, but brought my shake and daughter had protein bars for me so I was good to go! I do agree, this is a lifestyle not a diet. some of us will feel that certain foods are never worth it--others will find a way to put them in with certain modifications/limitations. and no one is wrong!! It is what we can live me!! I admire those that modify as well as those who abstain--because they are following what is right for them!!And what is right for each of us is all we can ever expect to achieve, right?!
I'm Ready!
I ate a brownie AND a piece of apple crumble this weekend. Both were smaller than average and at separate times. I didn't dump and have come to the conclusion that, aside from a few incidents of "funny tummy", I don't dump.
According to a lot of people, I should be praying penance to the Gods of WLS right now but I'm not. Do I feel guilty, yes. But like my therapist said "This is a lifestyle- not a diet. A brownie isn't going to kill you." So I know I need to work on doing things in moderation. If I have my protein in for the day then eating a brownie isn't that bad. If I don't, and turn to brownies first- that's bad. Unfortunately it was the later that happened this weekend.
But it's a lesson learned. If I were an alcoholic, I could just avoid alcohol forever. But with food, it's a whole different story. I'm just trying to learn to live WITH it and not avoid it.
According to a lot of people, I should be praying penance to the Gods of WLS right now but I'm not. Do I feel guilty, yes. But like my therapist said "This is a lifestyle- not a diet. A brownie isn't going to kill you." So I know I need to work on doing things in moderation. If I have my protein in for the day then eating a brownie isn't that bad. If I don't, and turn to brownies first- that's bad. Unfortunately it was the later that happened this weekend.
But it's a lesson learned. If I were an alcoholic, I could just avoid alcohol forever. But with food, it's a whole different story. I'm just trying to learn to live WITH it and not avoid it.
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