OT: best friend committed suicide
Oh, I'm so sorry. That has to be such a terrible shock.
Don't feel guilty. You would have done something to help her if you could have, if she'd let you know she was in that much pain. Depression is such a terrible illness.
Of course you're not handling this well. Who would?
Don't feel guilty. You would have done something to help her if you could have, if she'd let you know she was in that much pain. Depression is such a terrible illness.
Of course you're not handling this well. Who would?
Kelly
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Oh Carrie, I'm so sorry for your loss. Please don't feel guilty--there really is nothing you could have done even if you had still been as close as you were in the past. Unlike books or the movies, people who are suicidal don't really seem to reach out to others but go inwards. When my sister committed suicide it came out of the blue with no outward signs that she was that desperate. Be gentle with yourself and keep your happy memories of her with you.
Hi Carrie,
I am sending you a warm hug, and lots of understanding.
My father committed suicide so I understand the guilt associated with the thoughts that you wish you could have done something; however, you have to let that go because there is simply nothing you could have done.
I believe when each of us is born, we have a journey to make, and how we leave our physical body was decided before we ever arrived.
Please don't feel guilty as this is not in anyway your fault...
I am so sorry for your loss. I have never lost anyone to suicide but am well acquainted with grief. Allow yourself all feelings but guilt. There is nothing you could hav edone to change this. The only person that could change it and could ask for help, didnt.
Allow yourself to grieve, allow yourself to go through the steps, allow yourself the anger when it comes. Its all a part of healing.
Also undereating for us is dangerous, due to our calorie and vitamin needs. Try to stay as close to normal in that respect as possible.
Also i would suggest getting a journal or a notebook to jot random thoughts and memories into. There will be many coming up over the next few weeks an dmonths that you havent thought about in years. It is a great way to capture them. Then trust me, in the future , it will be bitter sweet to read them and go ."oh yeah! we did that" it's like getting to visit with the lost loved one.
I will keep you and your friends family in my prayers.
Hugs to you hun, Hang in there!
"Thy strength is sufficient for thee, as My strength is made perfect in weakness..........II COR 12:9
my knot in the end of the rope and hanging on for dear life verse.
Allow yourself to grieve, allow yourself to go through the steps, allow yourself the anger when it comes. Its all a part of healing.
Also undereating for us is dangerous, due to our calorie and vitamin needs. Try to stay as close to normal in that respect as possible.
Also i would suggest getting a journal or a notebook to jot random thoughts and memories into. There will be many coming up over the next few weeks an dmonths that you havent thought about in years. It is a great way to capture them. Then trust me, in the future , it will be bitter sweet to read them and go ."oh yeah! we did that" it's like getting to visit with the lost loved one.
I will keep you and your friends family in my prayers.
Hugs to you hun, Hang in there!
"Thy strength is sufficient for thee, as My strength is made perfect in weakness..........II COR 12:9
my knot in the end of the rope and hanging on for dear life verse.
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