Please Help! I CANNOT get to my goal weight!!!!! (B/A Pictures)
I think sometimes we have worked so hard at trying to lose that we don't recognize that maybe we are there? Also its a whole different phase to be in...I know I'm so used to losing (or wanting to lose) that I have no idea how to be in maintenance. Its coming soon for me and I have to adjust my mindset. I'm with Kim S. Perhaps you are where your body wants to be and now its time to shift to maintenance? You look fantastic and have done so well!!!
Jen
HW 254 SW 242 CW 148
**Down 106 pounds from highest weight!**
HW 254 SW 242 CW 148
**Down 106 pounds from highest weight!**
Mary Catherine
on 1/3/12 5:39 am, edited 1/3/12 5:40 am
on 1/3/12 5:39 am, edited 1/3/12 5:40 am
Right now you look fab. You still have another year or maybe more of honeymoon left. Losing weight is just calories in versus calories burned. Go to mydailyplate.com and start tracking all of your food and exercise. It will never again be as easy to lose weight as it will be during this honeymoon period. You are way to early to waste it.
Weight loss slows down drastically after the first six months or so. Then it is ridulously easy to maintain until the honeymoon period ends. After the honeymoon ends, weight starts coming back and is just about impossible to lose the regain. A good goal is to try for about 20 pounds under your lifetime goal.
You will look really skinny, but when the adjustment comes in, you will have that margin to regain. Log your food and exercise. Don't worry about getting too skinny. That won't last. Always, always weigh yourself every day. It will keep you accountable and out of denial.
It is popular for people to say just go by how your clothes fit and how happy you feel. That is a comforting thought but it will backfire on you. You do need the measurement on the scale. If your boss handed you an envelope with some money in it and told you not to worry about counting, just be happy, you would probably be mad. I would. It is the same with the scale as any other measurement. You want to be as accurate as possible, not just telling yourself you feel good and the number doesn't matter.
You went through a lot to have this surgery. Don't blow it now.
Weight loss surgery maintenance does not begin as soon as you reach your goal weight. It really begins at about 30 months after surgery. For the first 18-30 months your body will find its own low point and stay there. At about 30 months it will learn how to overcome the effects of the surgery and make up for what it perceives as having been starved. You will be able to eat a lot more and your current malabsorption will mostly go away. 50% of RNY patients regain 50% of their lost weight by year 5. Work hard not to be one of them. Your diet and exercise program must be for life or you will end up wondering why you are obese again.
Weight loss slows down drastically after the first six months or so. Then it is ridulously easy to maintain until the honeymoon period ends. After the honeymoon ends, weight starts coming back and is just about impossible to lose the regain. A good goal is to try for about 20 pounds under your lifetime goal.
You will look really skinny, but when the adjustment comes in, you will have that margin to regain. Log your food and exercise. Don't worry about getting too skinny. That won't last. Always, always weigh yourself every day. It will keep you accountable and out of denial.
It is popular for people to say just go by how your clothes fit and how happy you feel. That is a comforting thought but it will backfire on you. You do need the measurement on the scale. If your boss handed you an envelope with some money in it and told you not to worry about counting, just be happy, you would probably be mad. I would. It is the same with the scale as any other measurement. You want to be as accurate as possible, not just telling yourself you feel good and the number doesn't matter.
You went through a lot to have this surgery. Don't blow it now.
Weight loss surgery maintenance does not begin as soon as you reach your goal weight. It really begins at about 30 months after surgery. For the first 18-30 months your body will find its own low point and stay there. At about 30 months it will learn how to overcome the effects of the surgery and make up for what it perceives as having been starved. You will be able to eat a lot more and your current malabsorption will mostly go away. 50% of RNY patients regain 50% of their lost weight by year 5. Work hard not to be one of them. Your diet and exercise program must be for life or you will end up wondering why you are obese again.
I would just suggest that you look at your goal weight to see if it is realistic. Just because we pick a number and say "I would like to weigh xxx" doesn't mean it is possible. I would LOVE to weigh 125 pounds, but that just isn't physically possible for me. Look at your body objectively. Where do you still have excess weight? How MUCH excess weight remains? As others have said, your body may be done (or nearly so) and it is your brain that needs to get with the program. If you are not doiing what you know you should be doing, though, you may not be done.
I see a lot of people, both personally and professionally who get upset with themselves and feel like "failures" just because they did. It get down to some completely ARBITRARY goal weight. It's ridiculous for people to feel like weight loss failures when their only true failure was picking a realistic goal weight.
Lora
I see a lot of people, both personally and professionally who get upset with themselves and feel like "failures" just because they did. It get down to some completely ARBITRARY goal weight. It's ridiculous for people to feel like weight loss failures when their only true failure was picking a realistic goal weight.
Lora
14 years out; 190 pounds lost, 165 pound loss maintained
You don't drown by falling in the water. You drown by staying there.
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