one of the simplest tools for making good food choices I've found

Honestly, I think you have more serious problems than how to make good food choices.

Yes, you have the power to make your own choices, but you should also have the power to do things that will make it easier for you to make the right choices.    If he refuses to do something as simple as put his junk food on a different shelf than your healthy food, he is actively sabotaging your efforts to lose weight. 

To me, that suggests either there are some serious issues in your marriage or he has some serious problems.  Or both.  I know I don't know you or your husband so maybe I am wrong, but have considered going to a marriage counselor?  I'm guessing he has a lot of feelings about you losing weight and he's not handling those emotions very well.

  I would like to share one of our keys to this, besides fiancee and I sharing WLS. We still have 4 kids ages 8,10,12 and 14. None of them are heavy and all are athletic. They are not doing the same stuff that mom and I are, we have talked with them about it. They get lots of crap stuff when they spend weekends with dad. Here if we have to be on the road for something it's drive thru for them, and if they travel with their teams we give them dinner money to stop with the team. 
 At home I'm the chef and meal planner. So I have been working hard to get all the kids involved in cooking and planning and helping in general. They all to some point get what is in their foods now. My 14 year old has even been offering to cook somethings they ask for that he knows mom and I can't eat. Making them part of mealtimes has been a great tool. 

I live with my 7 year old son and my mom.  My mom is a full blown sugar addict. She has coke everyday and icecream nearly everyday.  The woman lives on carbs yet she weighs less than me and absoutely no diabetes.  Go figure?  Anyway....I've learned not to indulge. Sitting right on the kitchen counter are hershey peppermint kisses and Lindt chocolate eggs.  Also in the house is icecream, chips,  and soda.  Like an alcholic, I don't allow myself one sip.  I just can't knowing I can't develop a taste for that stuff ever again.  But...what kills me is not eating bread. Hamburgers are yucky without the bun. I loved subways but without the bun...forget it!  I can pass on the junk and not feel deprived but missing out on delicious french bread...its painful!

Talk about being the truth!!!!!   I "borrowed" some bread from my mom this week when I was sick..I just wanted some toast and I don't keep bread in my house.   She gave me 5 slices.   Big mistake, it took 1.5 days for them to be gone, I couldn't stay away from it.    Next time I'll give her 4 back!!!


Filling the fridge with good choices is a good one too.   

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