Anyone's sex life NOT improve after surgery?

Trying to think of something here... Might he be afraid of you looking too good and leaving him?

why not ask him? what have you got to lose? I would guess that maybe he just got used to you a certain way and now he adjusting. my husband was always commenting that he felt like he was having sex with someone else at first. Now he's used to it. and to answer your question, my sex life has improved since surgery, Not in frequency but we can do different things and I am much more comfortable.

Give me a few weeks and I'll let you know...lol

I've not dated anyone seriously since my surgery and now I've met a guy I think I really like...well, certainly like enough to get naked with. But, I find myself VERY worried about what he's going to think of my excess skin and deflated boobies. I figure though, if he likes me enough to want to have sex with me, then hopefully he likes me enough to not be bothered by the flab.

 Tell them to use it or lose it. One day they will be old and the flag will not go to the top of the pole anymore. 

 you are too funny! I read two posts from you today and you make me laugh! Thanks.
By the way the flag is flying high at my house!

 OMG, too funny!

 I would encourage you to give him the benefit of the doubt, still, at this point...and until you've lost the weight and have stabilized...

It's a process for him, too, coping with a major life change and he may not be able to process everything so easily...

My sex life is nonexistent at this point.  Before the surgery it was not great and now it is worse.   I thought the same thing..that it would improve but alas it has not. I ask him and he tells me it is not me...said that before surgery too.  Do we have a bigger problem perhaps but the rest of our life together is wonderful so I just keep trying to be patient. He hates his job and has lots of stress so maybe it's not me?  Good luck but know that you are not alone....

I read the topic and thought finally someone asks what I'm wondering however here it is totally opposite. He wants it ALL the time (still preop) and I have no libido what so ever. I am hoping MY attitude changes after I lose weight. We'll see.

I'd honestly sit him down and tell him it's weirding you out and reassure him you are still the same person.

I KNOW WHAT YOU MEAN I AM THE SAME WAY I HAVE NO DESIRE. MY HUSBAND WOULD DO IT DAILY BUT I HAVE NO INTEREST I HOPE THIS CHANGES AFTER SURGERY, I USED TO WANT IT EVERDAY, BUT SINCE I HAVE GAINED ALL THIS WEIGHT AND AT THE HEAVIEST THAT I HAVE EVER BEEN AT, I COULD CARE LESS. FOR GOODNESS SAKE I AM STILL YOUNG I AM ONLY 42 AND HE IS 45. SO HOPEFULLY IT WILL GET BETTER

KERRY