When someone is MIA from the boards????

When we were dealing with infertility I was on a IF board and the pregnancy boards would kill me in the first 3 months. I was worried about losing my baby and women would post they lost a baby or they would disappear. I finally had to leave the boards until I past the first trimester thinking it would get easier as we passed the scary point...but really when do we ever feel better about pregnancy I think just when we have the baby safely in our arms.

Here I cheer from the sidelines and I was chatting with CathyD1968 and so excited for her to start her journey. But she hasn't posted since her surgery date. It is like the IF Boards all over again. Daily I come on and check a couple of times a day and look for a post. My husband has come up with a few ideas and says don't think the worst. Maybe she changed her mind and she doesn't want to go on OH for a bit. Maybe she is done with the boards she had the surgery and feels fine. Maybe she did have problems and is unable to type at this point but she will when she can. So many what ifs.

I am on this forum for the good the bad and the ugly. I want to know complications that can happen and also hear the great stories of people having little pain and up and walking and feeling fine soon after. I guess I am just worried about Cathy wondering if anyone else ever feels this way on the boards when someone goes MIA and also asking you all to say a prayer if you pray in your daily life. Let's hope that she is doing great and just doesn't have time to come back to the forum after surgery.

I have also instructed my husband when I get out of surgery to post I made it and I will update as soon as I can in the hospital.

Sending prayers for Cathy and all the posters on OH who have had the surgery and those in the process.
Michelle

There could just be a million reasons why someone disappears from the boards.

- they decided not to have  WLS and don't wanna talk about it
- they had surgery and just don't wanna hang out here and talk about it
- they had complications and are very sick or worse and can't post
- their computer is broken
- they had a family emergency of some kind, not related to WLS, and are too busy to post
- something was said on the forum that hurt their feelings or upset them and they don't want to come back
- their surgery date was cancelled for some reason and they are depressed and don't wanna post about it
- they just got bored with the forums

And I bet a million more reason I can't think of right now.

I know it's hard to not know.  Did you try sending her a PM?  Maybe she'll get notified of that in email and respond to you?

Michelle, I know what you mean.... I am pretty new to this forum and don't quite know how to navigate it properly.... is there a way that I can set my page, so that I can see the answers that were given to things that I personally posted?  I ask questions, then when I finally get time to check this board again, I can't remember how long ago I asked what and can't find the page that I asked it on?  I have started nice conversations with people too and then lose track of them....  I am about 4 months out from my surgery and need all the support and encouragement I get from this forum..... when you go thru something this serious together, you do form a bond and you want to keep up with people.... I do hope your friend will at least feel your concern and reach out to you.......  thanks for all your spirit on here..... it is needed !  Have a great weekend and Mother's Day too !

Kelly I did send her a PM and nothing. But you are right it could be a zillion reasons I just need to keep the faith that she is happy and healthy and one day will contact one of us. A few of us have been talking about her no being on here and worrying.

Aloha Jen I know it is a bit confusing on the boards at first and sometimes they move so quick it is hard to find a post I made to see what people said about my question. But I always find it. Good Luck and I agree we need all the support we can get from people who know what we are dealing with. It just helps to talk about it with people who have walked in our shoes. Happy Mother's Day to you too!

Hoping she is just resting and doesn't feel up to being on the boards. Sending good thoughts and prayers her way!

 I didn't get on and post anything for a while after surgery......just didn't care enough.....was trying to do everything "right".  The computer was not a priority. 

You still haven't heard from her?  I will continue to pray that everything is okay and she is just needing time to heal...keep us posted if you hear from her.

USCFAN nope nothing. I will keep you updated if I do hear anything. I am starting to think that yea she might just be to tired and the computer is probably her last thing on her mind. I am addicted to my Ipad LOL so I am never really far from the net. Keep praying!

 MIchelle, when is your surgery?  I will stalk you to make sure we hear from you.

I hope to think that I will continue to come to this site daily to keep me on track.  It really helps keep my head in the game!

I'm worried about CathyD1968 too.  I was stalking OH before I signed up and she is about my weight and age and she's from Ohio (I think) so I was kinda keeping up with her progress also.  I get on hear once a day to see if she has posted.......in one of her last posts she said she would try to get her husband to put something on the day of surgery.......I know how my dh is and he wouldn't do it.  I hope she is fine.  In my mind she didn't go through with the surgery.  She had lost 50pds. already pre-op so......I hope she is fine where ever she is.  THinking of her too....