Need to vent about poor fashion choices post wls

I am uncomfortable when anyone, no matter what their size, wears clothes that are too tight or revealing. I am just more conservative about people drawing attention to their bodies. (I would venture to say that the fact that I was wearing a C-cup bra in early Junior High school and got teased a lot -- and continue to get unwanted stares for my still DDD-cup chest even now -- probably plays into that.) I know, though, that my reaction is about ME much more than it is about them, so I just shake it off.

I have NEVER liked clothes that are at all tight, so I tend to wear things that either fit without being snug or are a size up from the size that I could get buttoned or zipped. Even though I love having a flat tummy for the first time in my life, I still almost never wear anything that is form fitting around the rib cage because it just emphasizes how huge my boobs are.

Lora

Hubby thinks I'm weird in that I won't wear a belt, EVER. I can't stand the sensation of having myself squeezed by clothing. I always wear clothing that isn't too tight. Tight bugs the heck out of me. My big tragedy is that they don't make standard clothing that fits my larger-than-average hips and thighs and also my tinier than average waist. I compromise and what I wear is sometimes snug (but not TIGHT) around my hips, and always loose at my waist.

I think one of the most liberating things is to eliminate the number on the label as an "important" thing. The coworker who donated her too-large clothes to me (I swear she gave me close to 50 pairs of slacks) ALL had the label removed. I don't even know what size most of it is. But it fits, and the label size is irrelevant. I get that label sizes are important for marketing and purchasing purposes, but who cares if what you are wearing is an 8 or a 28 if they are identical aside from an arbitrary number?

My favorite pair of "skinny jeans" is too small for me at the moment. It's a size 12. Many of my 10s fit just fine. I'm not going to freak out that my 12 is too small. What I have to focus on is: Does it fit and look good on me. Not "is it that number I hate" or not.

I cut the tag out of a dress that I bought recently because it was -- inexplicably -- a size 16.  I really like the dress, and I have no idea why it is cut so small.  Even with my large chest, I have been buying 14s at the most, so I was shocked when I had to pull the 16. I almost didn't buy it just because of the number on the damn tag!  Fortunately, I came to my senses and decided to just cut the tag out once I got it home.  I wore it to work last week and got several compliments on it.  I had to work hard to tell that little voice in my head that kept sceaming "but it's a size 16!" to just STHU.

Lora

I wish my students cared as much about the numbers in my lessons as women care about a number sewed on a tag.

I like that my second-hand clothing (all very high quality) don't have tags. I think of them as "The tight ones" and "The perfect ones" and "the loose ones"

Still hoping to lose a bit and be able to fit the "tight ones" whatever their tag said doesn't matter.

Numbers mean nothing.  My 13 year old daughter has to go up several sizes to fit into skinny jeans.  She is tiny and usually wears slims.  I have yet to find a 2 or 0 that will fit her.  Years ago I taught preschool and had picked up some clothing at goodwill for the kids to use for dress up.  I had one adult size party dress that not a single 4 year old could fit into. 

No.....none of us have a right to judge anyone else. But I can understand what you are saying. I have gf's that try to be "hip" and dress in Junior clothes because they can. Is it age appropriate (everyone knows what this means)...absolutely not, but who cares, really! It's their thing! They like to appear that they are "with it" ....Me, personally, I only wear what I like.....I don't want to dress provocatively, I wasn't raised to show myself to everyone; but differences is what makes the world go around (otherwise, we would have uniforms). I too have to dress professionally at work and will want to have "fun" wearing stylish clothes(casual clothes). But who is to say what's stylish.....right? There's NO way I am going to wear those low rise pants....they make a size 2 person look like size 10...And I certainly won't try to dress to look BIGGER...LOL...Nor will I wear pants where my underware are showing. I will stay clear of the big ole baggy clothes; I will want to be proud of my loss and want to wear something that fits. I am lucky though, because I have two people that have done LapBand and RNY and they will be giving me everything....AND They have great paying jobs and LOVE to buy clothes. I like Most of what they have, not all....but I will be able to keep up with the size changes. I don't take offense to what you posted. And am I going to wear a mini skirt at some point....hell yeah! I am going to buy a pair of boots too (since I never in my adult life have owned a pair)....Good luck (looks like you hit some HOT buttons here). Everyone is entitled to their opinions and this is a good discussion topic. I wonder why people doing the before & after don't dress nice, so we can really see their SUCCESS in the journey (but to each his own)

Ok ... I'm going to go ahead and offer a public apology because this time next year ... Y'all are probably going to hate what I'm wearing.

I'm only slightly kidding.

I have been fat my whole life. I live (born & raised) in FL & have sweated my ginormous butt off for years wearing pants (or shorts to the knee) & short sleeve tees that went to the elbow (even when sleeping those were the rules). I suffered b/c I didn't think anyone should have to see my fat hanging out & I should have to deal with the heat covered so no one would think badly of me.

Within the last 2 yrs I have managed to wear a tankini top to the beach (still with shorts to the knee) & honestly felt so uncomfortable that I felt naked but I forced myself to get over it b/c it is too dang hot to be covered head to toe all the time.

As of right now ... my "give a damn" is busted. I spent my entire 28 yrs on this planet covering myself up & apologizing to anyone that saw my fat creeping out. I'm done caring. I didn't get to wear cute dresses when I was a teen (the last dress I wore, until recently, was in 5th grade when a girl told me I looked pregnant) , or cute bathing suits, I've never been to a club b/c I didn't think my jeans & a blouse uniform would be accepted. By God ... let me lose 100+ lbs. I'm going to rock the hell out all the cute stuff I never allowed myself to wear before.

Anyone who doesn't like it is free to turn away.

 I gave you the slow clap on that one.

In my world, that is the highest compliment.

GO GIRL! 

"My give a damn is busted..." ROFLMAO!

Why thank ya Nik ... From you, I will definately take it as a compliment.

Today just made me realize how much I am looking forward to dressing in weather appropriate attire. I ended up with heat exhaustion after tromping around a theme park in heavy jean capri's & a 3/4 sleeve top.

Ps. I already bought Spanx to smooth the bulge. Hurry up August, I'm ready for my pouch!

 Yeah, I have accepted that while I COULD wear a bikini (cuz apparently they now make them in all sizes) it does not behoove me. I am too much of an attention ***** to not want to be cute at any given time. :)

But I love your ***** Yes, you wear everything you want to wear and three more things. I had such a thrill the day I wore this:

 

Yes, girl! A halter dress with no bra on!!!! 

What a dream. I can't pull that dress off with "Le Bounce" but damn if I didn't do the thing while I could!