Why did WLS make you more assertive?

I don't think it is exclusive to WLS , I lost 160 lbs on a liquid diet  and several years before that I had lost 100 lbs.
When I was younger and lost weight , I got angry , angry that men paid more attention to me , opened doors for me , when they never would have done that before.
I know I was *****y and assertive when I lost weight then.
I was prepared for the anger when I lost the 160 , I simply wouldn't put up with **** from people, my young adult daughter's included,
I actually felt more comfortable hiding in my fat , although I was the life of the party ,always dressed extremely well, and could do anything for anyone, and would, when I lost the weight , if I didn't feel like doing something...I didn't do it. If a friend didn't or wouldn't help me when I needed it , I would not help them the next time they needed something. I learned that friendships were a two way street and it spilled over to my family , I changed my boundaries on them and it took years for them to "get it"
I do not think I will have the same issues loosing THIS TIME because of my age and physical limitations and I won't be loosing as much weight as before.
I know I am once again holding my head higher and starting to be happy in how I look in my clothes, and that does add to my confidence....now I just have to find some clothes that aren't so baggy .
I think we do change after weight loss usually for the better , but if one person changes in the family , the WHOLE family changes

I think the time off work, the surgery, being dependent, realizing how strong I really am, seeing who was there for me and who wasn't so much... all changed me.  I often joke that they cut out my "give a F#$@" because all the little things just don't seem to matter as much.  Not quite the same as assertiveness... but thought it was interesting to share anyway.

I have always been assertive and self confident. I always enjoyed my life and it shows. I've always surrounded myself with beautiful (both physically and spiritually) smart people who look past people's outside appearances and focus on whats important, their hearts.

My friends now say they never noticed how big I was until I lost the weight and they saw pics of me from before. I've never had a problem speaking up when needed. I worked at one of the worst high schools in the area with difficult kids and they all loved me and respected me and not once did any if them say a thing about my weight.

I got hired at any job applied to not because of my looks but because I am smart and experienced and I'm awesome! My looks are just a plus!

I don't think having surgery and losing the weight made me more assertive, buti was far from a doormat before surgery.  I was raised by a Marine, after all.  

Lora