Accepting Compliments

I am curious as to how everyone deals with compliments now that we are becoming our new "skinny" selves. I am down 90 pounds and have been getting a lot of compliments. I find my self deflecting them all the time. i say things like "well i have a long way to go".."I am definetly not skinny yet, but thanks"..or "oh I don't know about looking as good as you say"

How do you respond to compliments? Do they make you feel uncomfortable or inspired?

It makes me uncomfortable. I just don't know what to say other than "thank you". I always feel like I need to reciprocate.

I usually say something like, "Thanks! I've been working hard!" sometimes someone will keep going and then I'll say, "Well, thank you. But I still have a long way to go".

I struggle with this as well.  I am trying to train myself to just say thank you or thanks for your compliment.  I try to change the subject right away too.  I don't know that this is such a positive response, but I am trying to deflect the attention I guess.  Not used to it!

I had to retrain myself. Now I say thank you or I am skinny aren't I haha!

I hate the compliments as well..it embarrasses me ..in some instances , like when they come from men that i THOUGHT liked the bigger me, it disgusts me.  I guess because I've started seeing what people thought of me when I was bigger. It's shocking because I was bigger just 4 short months ago and the compliments im receiving are from people that I thought werent judging me..i guess you realize it was all an act and naturally i feel some type of way.

But everything is a learning process and I am very excited for the future.  It definitely inspires me to take care of myself first and to have more confidence.

Sounds like what I say lol, ive never been good at receiving compliments

im glad to hear im not the only one who struggles with accepting compliments. It is very hard to know what to say when you are not used to hearing compliments.

I'm very uncomfortable with compliments too.  My standard is, 'Thanks but I've got a long way to go'.  I guess that's not very accepting of the compliment.  I just don't know what to say and I  hate the attention being on me!  It's embarrassing! 

Honestly, it depends who it's coming from. I have different reactions to a large variety of complimenters.

If it's coming from someone who knows I had surgery and is smaller than me, I beam and say "Thank you, I FEEL good!"

If it's coming from someone who knows I have surgery and is bigger than me, I usually smile and say "Thank you!" and then follow it with the qualifier, "It's been a lot of work."
(I think I do this because I secretly fear they're in their heads whispering, "Cheater!")

If I get a compliment from soneone who doesn't know I had surgery, I tend to thank them and rush past it, either onto a compliment to them, or a change of subject entirely. I'm not ashamed I had surgery, and I've ended up telling a lot more people than I thought I would, but I really just want to be "normal". I don't want to become "That girl who had bypass." So I don't like to really spend a lot of time discussing it.

If I get a wistful compliment--someone saying things like, "You look great, I wish I could get this weight off." then I tend to commiserate. I thank them and follow it with, "I know how you feel...my weight was making me really unhappy and I had to do something about it. So far, so good."

If I get left-handed compliments, like someone telling me I'm wasting away, I just smile and say, "Well, I've still got a ways to go."

One thing that has made me super uncomfortable is that I have a VERY dear male friend for the last 8 years or so. I've had a crush on him for a long time, and I know the feeling is mutual. We flirt lightly sometimes, but because we're both married (and we're really good friends) it's always been a harmless thing. Just fun, nothing further. But lately, he's taken more of a pronounced interest, and I'm toeing a very fine line between appreciating the attention and feeling that it's crossing a line. So when he makes comments that are a little TOO inappropriate, I have no idea how to respond. That is one compliment I still have yet to handle gracefully.