Are the old-timers (vets) on OH Condescending???

 Have I told you how much I love and appreciate you lately?  If not, I do.  Love your advice, your tone, your posts, and all your knowledge and willingness to share.  Thanks.

I know what you mean.  There are days I am just too weary to retype the same reply, so I just walk away.  I do try to stay active because I owe so much of the knowledge that has made me successful so far to so many of the great vets that have stayed the course.

I really do believe I need to pay it forward, so I keep on trucking.  When someone starts crying "my feelings are hurt", I just go ahead and block them.....I do not have time to try to help you AND bottle feed your emotions at the same time.

TO ALL THE VETS ON THIS BOARD

Thank you, thank you, thank you for sharing what you know works and doesn't work, and for imparting your knowledge to me-much of which kept me from making some really foolish mistakes where vitamins are concerned.  I'm 3+ years out now, maintaining for 2, and all labs are good-and that is NOT because of what my surgeon taught me, IT IS BECAUSE OF WHAT THE VETS TAUGHT ME.

Lots of love and hugs to you!

I think you hit the nail on the head.  :O)
I'm a newbie. But I'm a newbie who tries to search the board before asking questions. Just about every thing imaginable has been discussed on these boards.
Even though I don't post much y'all have saved my stomach and sanity 10 times over. 
-Gina

I never mind the repeats, though it does get a little old when I see five of the top ten subjects are about "I'm three weeks out and I've stopped losing, is this it???" It just seems people might at least look on the first page.... but then that's me.

There's a lot of GOOD to be found here. I say treat it like the supermarket.... shop around, buy (read) what you want, and ignore the stuff that doesn't suit your needs.

What'd I miss???

And dare I say that maybe *I* personally am sometimes condescending (in perception...and not intentionally) because...um...bounce or not I've done this. And I have seen lots and lots and lots of others do this.

You know what you know but I've seen what I've seen. And MOST of the people who take exception to my advice end up just the way I think they will. I say my peace and move on. I mean who am I? Only a person who has STOPPED the cycle of regain and maintained a 127 lb. weight loss for 2.5 years.

What could I possibly know?

Oh... you missed me in a PWM mood (posting with a migraine).

I do have to say AMEN to what you say though.

I'm an EXPERT in some of this, and a rank know-nothing-newbie in other aspects. I share when I still have something left to give, but if I don't, I just keep it to myself.

I sometimes feel a failure with my "little bounce" but when I think of it in absolutes (15 above optimum, and down 170)... I realize I've done something worthwhile and might have something to share with others

Can't tell you how many times I have posted "WTF do I know?" 

It is usually my ultimate exasperation when someone gets upset because I haven't said what they wanted to hear.    I really don't expect people to agree with me all the time, (I honestly am not that narcissistic LOL)  and sometimes I just hope that my comments are the little thing nagging in their brain when all the unicorn farts have lost their lustre!

I really am not a mean or miserable person, but sometimes I feel like I have to be the Devil's Advocate when I see that people are getting a lot of hand and back patting when maybe a kick up the rear might not hurt ...  

You can see why I don't win friends and influence people ...

Well see I think that's where you and I and Lith and other vets differ from some that may come and go here.

I don't give a damn if you end up hating me. I hate obesity MORE than I desire any of you all to like me. So if what I said or what I did inspires you to defeat obesity it was worth it to me. You can be pissed all you want, think what you want, say what you want. Use that "pissedoffdedness" to fight your fight - and win it.

That's what I'm all about. Hell, there have been folks here who ticked me OFF telling me about myself. But I'm better for it. A few of them I STILL don't like. But I'm better for it.

I figure that, the same way my clients come to me for an honest objective perspective, there are enough people here who will pat people on the hand and just blindly reassure than that everything is just fine (or will be, no matter what they are doing or not doing)... but there are only two handfuls of us who have the experience to back up our own research/knowledge who are willing to offer the honesty that someone needs for long-term success.

Yes, sometimes we get grumpy... but some of us stick around which is more than 99% of the people who come through here do, and we do it becasue we care.  Yes, sometimes the newbies are way too sensitive... but hopefully, once they get over their feelings being hurt by an imagined, non-intentional tone or "that isn't a helpful response" (because they were told something they didnt want to hear) offense, they will pay attention.  And, if they don't, and they eventually leave and then come back later with problems, we will still probably be here.

Lora