Still struggling

Still at almost 6 months post op struggling with not continuing to eat once I know I'm full. I measure out & weigh all my food, but some days I can eat the amount that I am allowed to eat & other days I can't eat as much. I have a problem with once I'm at that full stage letting what I have left on my plate go in the trash. I feel its being wasteful in my mind, which I know its not cause I don't eat enough food to really call it wasting. It's all mental. I have this past week been trying really hard to work on this. My husband will tell me to just let it go, that I don't have to eat it just because it's there. Anyone else having these issues?

I try NOT to think of all the money that I have wasted since this journey started. The tubs of shakes I have purchased that I no longer like, the bars, the clothes. All in the garbage. Just let it all go and think of the journey and WHY you are doing this. The garbage should become our FRIEND. Toss it all out.

Only eat until you are full, I could care less what goes in the trash, the more in the trash the less on my ass.  Really.  Get over that.  I don't weigh or measure, I guess what I can eat and if I want more I take more and if its too much I toss it.  Not one bite over the comfortably full mark.  Not one.  There is more food, the apocalypse is not quite upon us yet so there is always tomorrow to eat again.

 I struggled with this after I first got my band. I realized my dog was getting plump because I was "sharing" with him.  I didn't want to hurt him the way I didn't want to hurt myself, and I finally got past it. I was raised to be a member of the Clean Plate Club- my mom called it " happy plate." You don't just overcome 18 years of training in an instant! You'll get there!

I have days that I am hungrier than others too. Yesterday was a hungrier day and it was frustrating. I totally get what you're saying about not wanting to waste food. There are so many times I have to throw food out or freeze leftovers. I try to think of it in terms of not wasting the cost and effort of having the surgery in the first place and it's worth it to throw out a few cents worth of food rather than eat it and gain weight or get sick. I know for me it is a lifelong struggle to stop eating when I am full - I stop when I am full but there are days that for whatever reason, I want to eat more because something tastes good. But I'm learning to stop when I am full no matter what and to feel content with that decision even if I have to toss stuff out. You're not alone in this struggle!  Best of luck to you!

 I havent had surgery yet but i plan to eat by my dogs. When i get full i can just put the plate down and let them have it :)  

I have issues with being wasteful too. It's a moral value to me to be mindful of what I have and not waste things or throw things in the trash needlessly. As time went on post op I developed an understanding of what I really eat and how much and earlier post op it varied alot more than it does now. That said, I still sometimes don't finish things. So I eat alot of leftovers or cook extra purposefully for that so that anything I don't finish on my plate goes in the tupperware for lunch the next day or gets frozen for dinner another night and I have a compost in the yard for everything else. And two dogs and a boyfriend that will eat anything too. I'm not exactly a "clean your plate" club member, because I've learned to do something else with it besides eat it.

I have made it a habit to throw away the last two mouthfuls of every meal ...   I really don't think the Children in Africa mind me doing so and it makes sure that I don't overeat - so easy to do at this stage!

When I was losing, I refused to wear clothes that were too big for me - I did wear the same clothes over and over but refused to wear ugly clothes, baggy knickers or unfilled bras etc ...  Goodwill and Walmart were my bffs for about 6 months until I lost all my weight!

Keep on working on it! It's worth the effort to conquer that guilt feeling.

But in the meantime (if you feel you have to clean your plate), measure out your allowed amount and before you put it on your plate, put about two tablespoons back into the serving dish or pot or bowl or whatever. That way, you can actually eat all that's on you plate, but not overeat at the same time.

But still, please continue to work on getting rid of the guilt. It's a useless emotion, and you can better spend your valuable emotional IQ on happy things and positive achievements...not guilt!

  I am sooo glad to see this post!!!  I have been having a HUGE problem with feeling like I am "wasting" this or that.
  As a child,you were not allowed to leave the table till your plate was clean (even if you went out and vomited   rite after.Like I often did.because my poor tummy was to full.) my parents did this.My grandparents seemed to know better.
   My grandparents were all farmers, so we cann food and reuse and repair EVERYTHING. Which is not a bad thing. BUT, it does make you aware and at times feel GUILT for "wasting" food.
  At first I was "sharing"  with my mini-chuwowah (sp wrong). But he started getting so fat and having tummy trouble! So I stopped that. But caught my self saying to my FAMILY!,"do u want this or that?"  I realized after my daughters jeans got tight what kind of damage I was doing to her without even meaning to.  
   I think for some of us this is just one of the "demons" we have to battle in our daily fight for health. This constant need to not "waste".
   Having said all that. It is a true ray of sunshine in my day to know that others are out there fighting the same urges as I. I guess we jsut have to keep puching away at it. As one person said "better in the trash then on my ass." An Lord knows the LAST thing I need is more ass!!! HA HA !!