Why am I annoyed by all the attention?

I hear ya. 

I think when I was so MO--still have 100 lbs to lose! --I was far from invisible, but very few people talked about my weight to my face, so although I felt invisible, I also felt horribly conspicuous.

Now you're hearing the curiosity and opinions (fat bad, losing weight good) that were always there. At least, that's how I interpret it. Maybe it's one more thing we expose when we lose the fat. The journey is partly about uncovering ourselves, facing the world. It's hard to tell the difference sometimes between people being supportive and interested in us in a good way, and people being judgemental, nosy, and rude. At least, it's hard for me.

Since I'm retired (TY, Powers That Be!) I'm exposed to few people that scrutinize me. What I'm super grateful for is gaining the ability to become invisible, like every other older woman. I hate it when everybody who's seen me once remembers me because I'm so fat. 

What do you say to the questions and comments? I think if I were facing the gauntlet as you are, I'd answer, "Well, it's hard work, but I sure like getting healthier!" and end the conversation right there.

Thanks for sharing!

Initially I had some trouble telling so many people about my surgery but now I don't. Whenever I get a compliment I say, "thank you so much; I feel great and I'm healthy." I say the last part to remind myself why I did the surgery since it's easy to get caught up in the looking good side of things. I always focus on how healthy I've become and that my struggle continues because I have to watch what I eat and exercise...and will have to do that for the rest of my life. I've really appreciated the support and encouragement I've gotten it's just that some days I'm tired of the same old conversation. Luckily, with my close friends the topic is now what sort of exercise we're doing, what healthy recipes do we have, can we work out during the holidays and watch what we eat to feel even better. It really is a new world. I like it...I really do. :)

Maybe that old sensitivity is something that you need to lose.  Say thank you I am feeling so good.  How are you?  I'll bet that half the time they come back with all kinds of ailments that you never wanted to hear.  LOL

I seriously think people are nicer to me. The cashiers at the grocery store even talk now. I'm still in this body !!

LOL.  No one comments on my weight at work, except for one congrats from someone I hadn't seen in 2 years.  People are nice to me when I make the effort to be pleasant to them, just like when I was larger.  Little kids still stare at me, but I guess it's not because of my size like I thought it was.  Who knows? Maybe perceptions changed on both sides of the conversation equation? 

Maybe the nosy coworker has a friend or family member considering the Op and wants a "real answer" and not the "glitzy pamphlet" one?  Maybe you can try asking questions back? See what it is that they actually are concerned about and want to know? Maybe he's amazed at what you've been strong enough to do and is astounded by your bravery and determination? Never know...

Kaoz