"I love being fat."
On "strange sex" there was an episode with a woman who was in a relationship with a "feeder", he was sexually attracted to very heavy women and enjoyed feeding them. Their goal as a couple was to have her gain so much weight she would become immobile and be completely dependent on him.
It is seriously disturbing to me and I cant fathom having that mindset. I love eating, but I hate being fat.
I didn't have a problem being fat for a very long time. I had been chubby as a kid, and I didn't have huge body issues. Sure, I had wished I was thinner, but I was OK the way I was. For me, I got tired of not living life and avoiding situations because I was so out of shape. I had an instance where some friends and my husband wanted to go for a hike. I passed on it because I knew I couldn't keep up with them and had bad flashbacks to when I went hiking with my husband, and almost passed out from a heat stroke. For me, that was a huge wake-up call, and knew I needed to make some changes. I also needed to work on some other issues that got me to where I was, and I knew it was going to take a lot of work on my part.
I don't doubt that she has told herself this to make herself feel better about being obese, and maybe some day, she'll realize she needs to do something about it.
I was one of those people who told people that I honestly did not like being fat. When I was a size 10, people would stop me in the street and compare me to beautiful celebrities who will remain nameless but when I got fat, people would tell me that I looked like Queen Latifah or Jill Scott (both pretty but overweight) and I attracted guys who looked like crackheads. Being fat was not cool to me and I was the first to admit it!
My daughter is like that. She says she doesn't want to be "fat" but doesn't mind being thick or curvy. She is about 200 lbs so I think she has passed thick and curvy up but she loves to eat more then she wants to be thin. She definitely is addicted to food.
She is lucky that the culture she is growing up in is a lot more accepting then when I was growing up. Perhaps because childhood obesity is epidemic but there are a lot more heavier kids around then when I was younger so the standards are different. I grew up in the 60s and 70s in Los Angeles and when I turned 13 and weighed 130 lbs, at 5'2", I was made fun of and called fat all the time, even my own mother and sister were embarrassed by me. Now my daughter longs to be 130 or even 150 but she won't consider giving up being able to eat what she wants, when she wants in order to achieve it.
Truthfully, when I was younger I hated being fat, although I was addicted to eating, too, and for me it was worth it, or at least I told myself that, but when I got older I really didn't care as much about being heavy as I did about how terrible I felt all the time. I was sick and in pain. It hurt to walk. As you get older the weight takes a bigger toll on your body. I honestly didn't care as much about losing weight as I did about feeling good. I knew my life wouldn't change much with weight loss, other then my size. Everything else is pretty much the same. But I prayed that losing weight would let me feel good again. In my younger days I never felt the effects of being even 100 lbs overweight but the older you get the more it hurts and affects your health.
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High Weight (2002) 240 Revision Weight (2010) 220 Current Weight 115.
When people tell me they couldn't have surgery because they like to eat, I just laugh and say "Me too. I just eat a lot less and make better choices."
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I am three months post op and I still love eating and I do still eat. I just don't eat very much and I have eliminated certain things from my diet. I still eat plenty of yummy things. I made a great pot of chili yesterday. A few weeks ago, I made salmon with pineapple salsa. I am so happy, it was totally worth giving up food for for how I feel and look now. (and I am not even close to finished!)
I can definitely relate - lots of food choices I would make pre-op that are no longer allowed, I miss sometimes. But there are 2 things that make me not mind as much. First, all the things that I always wanted to do, but couldn't, that now seem possible. Second, since I can only eat a small portion, I can justify buying much higher quality products, or having that expensive entree and really enjoying it instead of just snarfing it down! Just my 2 cents.
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My professional experience is that MANY obese people pretend to be ok, or even completely happy, with their weight, but that deep down their weight bothers them a great deal. So I would give very little credence to her statement that she loves being fat. I do know some people who like themselves as large people, but it is usually a case of them liking themselves because of their internal qualities but still being unhappy with their bodies.
This is just one of the many deceptions that we perpetrate upon ourselves to try to lessen the pain of being obese. Some people believe (sometimes at an unconscious level) that if they tell other people that they are fine with their weight, that other people will be fine with it, too. Other common self-deceptions: "yes, I am overweight, but I am healthy" (you may not have any obvious health problems related to obesity, but that WILL change with time, and being MO or SMO is NOT healthy for MANY reasons) and "I am fat because of genetics (or my thyroid), not because I eat too much" (yes, genetics does contribute to obesity, but it does not make obesity automatic; yes, being hypothyroid can contribute to gaining weight, but if your thyroid is low enough to be causing weight gain, you would have all sorts of other symptoms as well).
Lora
14 years out; 190 pounds lost, 165 pound loss maintained
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