18mths out. Weight Gain

I am stuck in a hard place.  Gaining 10lbs seems like the end of my new life.... but I am entirely too logical to really believe that way.  I can't even pretend I don't know where it came from, because I can probably give date, times and calorie counts.  So the logical me says "Then if you know the problem, fix it"

The depressed miserable "I knew I was gonna fail" me is fighting tooth and nail to get to the pizza in the break room here at work.

Logic - throw out "bad" foods, since I can't control how much I eat, I need to control what I have access to

Emotion - but I spent a lot of money / it tastes good / I deserve treats

Logic - I had a planned week off from the gym, but still got zero rest / was extremely stressed the entire time

Emotion - it's too hard to get back to working out, especially since I'm just gaining it all back anyway

 

 

I need a butt kicking, not a hand holding.  Thanks

Our stories are similar.  My surgery was 8/1/11 and my highest weight was 348.  I've been struggling with a 10lb regain from my lowest and my lowest wasn't even my goal weight.  I'm at 175lbs now and I really want to be in the 140s (I'm 5'1). 

The "I knew I was gonna fail" thought pops into my head daily.  

I know what I need to do and for the most part, I follow the rules.  My exercise has slacked off and my weekends with my boyfriend destroy any gain I made during the week.  

I'm sorry you are also going through this.  We need to get back to basics - protein forward, lay off the white carbs, journal.  

thanks for your reply... sorry it took me so long to get back.

  I am happy at my weight (well, the 10lbs ago weight of 170).  I totally get in the exercise and protein - my problem is junk... cookies, candy, chocolate, etc. And compulsion , saying no but still reaching for a plate.

 

Consider your butt kicked. Walk away from the snacks/bad food choices and go work out. It will make you feel better - endorphins and all that. Plus you will feel pride in your effort and in your success at resisting the pizza. Take the small steps that lead to the grand prize - a healthy weight! YOU CAN DO IT. You know you can. Look at all you've already accomplished. Gaining 10 lbs is only failing if you let it be the end of your success. Move forward.

YOU CAN DO THIS! You are worth more than the money you spent on those treats!

Amy

Well, that day I ended up eating pizza. the topping of 3 pieces! The whole day was a wreck.  But then I pulled myself together and started making things happen.  I really like the Gaining 10lbs is only failing if you let it be the end of your success".... good stuff

Stop feeling sorry for your silly ass, and stop making excuses.  You know what caused this and you know what you have to do.  Now is the time to decide if you are mature enough to do what you have to do - not do what you want to do.  Only you can make that choice - but only you have to live with it.

So, what's it gonna be?

 

THAT'S what I'm talking about... thank you!

 I couldn't / wouldn't name it what it was - excuses.  I wanted them to be valid reasons.   I totally failed the day I weighed, but I have been making better and better choices.  I am fortunate to have such awesome support!

Hi LJ,   I had to look twice at your message to make sure that I had not written it.  You sound so much like what I am going through right now.  In fact today I made a promise to myself and God that I would smarten up.  Then my daughter called and I had to help her out with the gkids (get them off the school bus) and she had all kinds fo valentine cookies on the counter.  I didn't even hesitate.  I ate and ate.  What is wrong with me.

Thanks so much for putting your situation in writting.  I really do like the responses as I need a real kick in the pants too.  I am afraid that I have stretched my pouch too much and now will never get it small again.  I feel like a real loser.

Get back to it....

yep... my eating can be SO compulsive. Like Thursday, another team at work had Chinese food. I've only had Chinese food one time since surgery and it just wasn't the same, so when they offered, I said no thanks.  Someone else came over to say there was food, and I said no thanks.  A 3rd person came and offered me a plate, I got up, took the plate and went to eat - not hungry, not wanting or even craving Chinese - just following the "expectation" I guess?

I am doing better, still work to do.  Hang in there, we can do it!

Yup, I've had those failure thoughts too. Many of us have. But failure lies not in regain but in the unwillingness to address it. So lace up your shoes or hop on your bike or gather whatever equipment you use. It's time to kick those ten pounds in the butt.

Don't fall prey to that failure crap. As long as you are still breathing you have no excuse (and neither do I or any of us) to languish on the couch eating stuff you know doesn't help you.