No Weight Loss No Surgery

Yep... I didn't lose my 13lbs & the 25th is my last appointment for my 6 month evaluation. I feel like I CANT do it, even though I know I CAN. I was expecting to submit everything the 25th and now I can't because I slacked and it's all my fault and I don't know what to do. I want this so bad but it's so hard for me to lose weight, I get in my head that I need to lose weight and I eat everything in site just for the fact I know I can't have it. I wish I had stronger will power. I'm really sad right now and disappointed in myself... I'm sure my nutritionist will be just as disappointed... I feel like a failure... Nothing more.

Perhaps they will let you have the surgery anyway?

I wish they would but it's required for me to take the weight off... being depressed isn't going to help me. I gotta do what I need to do... but it's so hard.. it's for something I want so bad though

Please do not take this as an attack, but you have far greater issues going on here than losing 13 pounds. Quite frankly, you are not ready for weight loss surgery. I would be sincerely disappointed if a doctor went ahead with surgery at this point.  

You need to seek counseling and education. Weight loss success starts and ends in the mind. If your emotional issues regarding your dependence on food are not addressed, no surgery or eating plan will resolve this.

Many people who have had weight loss surgery are not equipped for the long haul. It is usually easy in the first 18 to 24 months to lose weight after surgery, but the real test is maintaining the weight.

You must change the way you resolve conflict in your life without the added stress of depending on a food group to appease the irrational thought processes we all allow ourselves to engage in on a daily basis.

I do not know your age, or status of obesity in your life, but until you deal with the mental war raging in your head, long-term success will not be attained. 

Weight loss surgery is not a means to an end. Weight loss surgery is a tool with a limited life span and it must be used with respect, discipline and appreciation.

I hope you find the strength to conquer your demons and one day achieve your hopes, wishes and dreams. Peace. 

Hi! I looked at your profile and your recipes... They look great! Could you please friend me so I have easy access? I'm having surgery Monday and know I have a while before I can eat solid food, but I would like some good recipes and these sound tasty! Thanks!

Wonderful words of encouragement.....sometimes the hard truth is what we need to hear.

Not judging, but 13lb weight loss is for your benefit.........you have to want it.....the medical team can't want it for you.......I was told for my first wls (lapband) that I had to lose 20 lbs first.........i'm sure many people have similar experiences......but you have to have the will.......you can do this......

It's a tool.....not a quick fix or problem solver....it can help you or hurt you.

 

I agree with the above poster. I feel like if this was something you really wanted/need you would lose the weight. I am currently at 284lbs. The moment I went to the seminar, I stopped drinking soda. I never bought fast food again, I didn't buy sweets or chips. I changed my diet 100% because this is what I need to make my life better. I think you are just not ready for this big of a change in your life yet.

You are not being successful because you are depriving yourself, which is, by nature, what diets do.  They "prohibit" you from having "bad" foods, which results in a sense of deprivation, which then leads to abandoning the diet and eating the prohibited food (and usually in larger amounts or with greater frequency than you would have if you had just had a small amount to begin with).

You are not a failure, but you are trying to use a weight loss method that is a failure.  Diets don't work.  If they did, none of us would have needed surgery.  What have you been trying to do to lose the weight?  Did you plan ahead of time what you would eat or did you just adopt a list of "bad" foods to avoid?  Your best bet is to not buy the foods that you know are high fat and high calorie.  Plan your meals, focus on high protein foods that are filling (beef, chicken, dense fish like tuna, beans), select small portions.  Plan healthy snacks so you don't allow yourself to get too hungry (and then overeat).  Drink lots of water to keep your stomach (and intestines) full.  You already know that the deprivation causes you to fail, so dump that as a strategy.  if you plan meals, and allow yourself very small amounts of foods you enjoy, you wont feel deprived.  You may also want to consider replacing one meal with a protein shake (also good practice for post-op life).  

I would agree with the suggestion to seek counseling to help you understand, and address, whatever psychological issues are at the heart of your eating.  MANY of us needed a certain amount of counseling, so there is no shame in it.  Those issues won't just magically go away after surgery and can sabotage your long term weight loss and your ability to maintain your loss.

You CAN do this, but you need to have a plan in place and you need to make a commitment to a healthier lifestyle. That commitment comes before they wheel you into the operating room, though.

Lora

Samantha - The others are right saying that you are not ready.  We have to be able to develop an entire new lifestyle.  Sure, the malabsorption will force us to lose a certain amount, but when that stops.......You have to be ready to comply with the rules and there are a lot of them.  This is why so many insurance companies require psychological counseling and pre-surgery weight loss to see if you will be compliant.  It is a waste of time and money to go through this and the gain it all back, not take your still needed vitamins and end up heavier than when you started and malnourished, as well.

Seek counseling and find out why you are having these issues and try to resolve them.  Once that is out of the way, you will have a clear path to follow on your way to success following surgery.

Good luck on your journey!

Samantha, don't listen to those previous posters.  You can do this.  I think it sounds like you really want this and are ready.  I gained weight on my pre op diet and was still approved, and have been successful with this surgery.  Never let anyone tell you that you can't achieve your goals.  Shame on them.