Is it just me? Regrets?

Im a little over one week post op and I have so many mixed emotions. On one hand im happy with the weight ive lost so far, and im ready to embrace my new life, and on the other hand I have regret. I keep thinking to myself "Could I have done it on my own" ...I wouldnt have had to have surgery, I would still be able to eat the things I like it eat...Am I the only one that has had these thoughts? I keep saying that i might be grieving food...does this get better as time goes on and the weight comes off? Is it just because im brand new at this? Any help and advice would be really appreciated.

This is normal, your hormones and body are making huge adjustments.  Give it time and you will appreciate you gift and the journey.

lyn

You are just feeling the blues.  Very normal!  No point in thinking what if regarding things in the past that can't be changed.  Look ahead.  You have made the decision to have wls, you will be successful, and life will be great!  Those first few weeks are always a bit rough during recovery.  Your hormones are a mess, and you are still trying to figure out a routine with eating, fluids and vits.  Plus you are just not feeling strong yet.  You just had major surgery, give it some time.  Trust me, things will look up in a little while.

Giselle

Hi Annie, I think you are perfectly normal in that respect.  I am 6 months post-op and I still wonder about it but not that often.  WHen I would get that thought in my head, I would always share it with my husband and he would say, "And honey how did that work for you?  How many times did you struggle with this burden and the lose it and regain it?" and I knew he was right and saying it with the utmost love and just wanted me to stop second guessing myself and he was right.  IF I could have done it on my own, then I would not have weighed 258 lbs the day of the surgery !!!  Myself, I had been researching this surgery for almost 6 yrs, so I knew coming in that there would more than likely be foods that were off limits to me for the rest of my life.  In fact, right now, I am still struggling with my Sweet tooth..... and I will probably always struggle with it.   Obviously what I did in the past was not working, so I made a change for my health and so did YOU...... Just take it one day at a time and be easy on yourself... you are going thru alot of changes, both physically and mentally.  Remember there are always people on here to support you and sometimes to give you tough love when you need it too....  Welcome to the Loser's Bench !! 

I was an emotional basket case in the months following my surgery.  I did grieve food and being able to eat lots of it.  In the 2 years since my surgery, the way I interact with and think about food has become a lot more normalized and I don't regret having my surgery.  You might have been able to have lost the weight on your own, but your chances of keeping it off would have been slim to none, the surgery is a tool you can use to help keep the odds in your favor.  My advice is just to remember that the first few months are difficult, but they will pass! 

Yes, yes and yes!!! I had surgery just a few weeks ago and unfortunately still have those feelings at times. I think it gets some better when you can start eating more regular food although having such restriction on choices is frustrating too.

I think that hormones and emotions are out of whack for awhile after surgery...at least that is what I am hoping! lol

I just keep telling myself that I had tried and tried on my own and this is the help that I needed to have a healthy life. I can make the sacrifices to get what I want...I am hoping that saying "no one said it would be easy...just worth it" is true for this journey!

sometimes I do miss just eating whatever I want to eat. When I go to the store and see all this yummy food, I do miss it, but I know in my heart of hearts I did the right thing and I have no regrets!! It's only food.........and in time you will be able to have it again in small portions!!  Hang in there!!

I am 3 weeks post op and I don't feel upset about my lack of eating because I know it's temporary. I have friends who've had RNY and they eat pretty much anything (in moderation) so I know that I will someday feel "normal" again-lol! So for me-it's mentally EASIER than doing it on my own (dieting) because I know it WILL get better. Think about this-when you are doing good on a diet-in the back of your mind you are wondering if you can SUSTAIN it by continuing to follow your plan (or at least that's how I feel when I'm dieting). This feels totally different to me--at least at this point.

Know that it will get better!

Hugs,

Pam

When I felt like that I put off surgery for two years.  Then my acid reflux was bad, diabetes was getting worse, varicose veins were bad, everything was going down hill and I was so glad to solve those problems that I had no doubt and no choice. I said to hell with cake and pie, candy and cokes.   I haven't looked back since.  

Thank you so much for sharing all this information. It is so helpful to me.